Is it normal that i don’t know what to do with men?

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I have always been quiet and to myself, always been ‘scared’ of people you might say. I’m nearly 24 and never done anything with a man. I’m self conscious and think everyone is judging me so I’ve never really got to know anyone cause I’m terrible at it. I’m getting help for my social anxiety finally. Something I try to push under the carpet for ages.
And I want to find a nice man. So recently I’ve been on a dating website just matching with people and seeing how it goes.
It usually ends up matching with someone... talking for a while adding them on snapchat and then it dies off or they start ignoring. Felt a bit bruised a few times by people I thought were into me.

I found someone who I’ve been speaking to for a good couple of weeks now. It camenatural. We are flirting and he’s asking me questions about myself, even said ‘he’s falling for me’ when I say he can do better because he is out of my league he says ‘I just want you’ he’s in Ireland and I’m in north England. So I’m kind of guessing he doesn’t just want a hook up? I hope not anyway.

He’s recently been asking questions about my past relationships. I’ve told him I’ve never done anything and that was so embarrassing for me and I thought okay he’ll delete me now.
But he said he didn’t care... I was shocked.
I really am getting to like him. But I’m terrified someone better will snatch him or he will stop talking or that he’s leading me on? He isn’t but my anxiety is going mental. Because I want to be liked by him.

So yeh any advice ?

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  • MeowKitty92
    6 years ago

    Don't feel embarrassed about being a virgin. Most men adore a woman who hasn't been touched. Save your virginity for someone really worth it. As far as not knowing what to do with a man, it's totally normal. Some people experiment with relationships early and others late. Just remember, everyone starts off not knowing what to do. What will help with your social anxiety is comfort. Side note: People will judge you no matter what you do, so you might as well do what you like.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Be careful when it comes to people you meet online.

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    I just had my eyes displayed so I will come back to this one later. But right off I would say if you are female, when it comes to men " 4-F's" "FINDEM,FEELEM, FUCKEM AND FORGETEM".

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    What's your height and how much do you weigh? Are you disfigured?

    Attraction is mostly physical and always non-negotiable. Being physically attractive is a huge part of keeping your partner's commitment.

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    • Pumpurrnickel
      6 years ago

      You have the honor of having the most downvoted comment in at least the last several months. Bravo.

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      • bubsy
        6 years ago

        'Comment Hidden' attracts more attention than anything else, and so the numbers really don't bother me.

        There is a needless amount of relationship misery in our modern world, especially with women who dance around unchangeable truths. Body image plays a HUGE factor in self-esteem, and this is most true with young women.

        So to those young women reading this, the single and most important step towards loving yourself and finding (and keeping) a high-value man is to work on your appearance.

        You can't trick yourself into believing you're beautiful. You're not stupid. You have to be willing to put in the effort to change.

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