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Whenever I first meet someone I can't trust them so easily, so I find it easy to express my feelings towards them and about them, etc. But as I trust them more, it seems as if it gets harder to express my feelings, and I may seem sometimes cold. I really don't mean to be that way. I love all my friends and family but I just don't know how to show it. Is it normal? Is anyone else like this? Any advice? Thank you =]
Its always easier to talk to strangers, thats why 'help lines' are so successful.
Not being able to talk to, or show your feeling to people close to you is probably more about fear of getting hurt.
But you cannot go through life without getting hurt, thats like saying I'll never go outside the front door in case I fall over and hurt myself or have an accident.
Open up and let the feelings come in, you'll find it easier to share something of yourself then, don't be afraid of emotions, they make life interesting!
There are several reasons why this may be. I will throw around some ideas that MIGHT be why, however I don't really expect any of them to be fully true. I'm kind of in the same boat, but never came to an conclusion so I left it alone.
Perhaps you have a hard time expressing yourself because you know that they already know you. So, subconsciously you don't want to give them what has already been given. (If that makes sense)
Perhaps you already trust them, but since you're used to talking to them, etc you don't SEEM like you trust them.
Perhaps the reason you trust strangers and can easily express your feelings is because you wish to make new friends?
Those are a few ideas. I'm almost the same way, but your friends know you really well so they are able to use your weaknesses against you. However, that being said, you have to know who your TRUE friends are and who are the fake ones. If you're true to yourself, the fakes will show themselves in time.
Sorry for the long response and sorry for any cheesiness.
I'm like this with the guys that I become attracted to. I never know how to really show it that I like them, so I kinda end up looking like or saying something that a typical moron would say, or... a 12 year old would say. I always feel a little embarrassed about it afterwards, so then I kinda shut them out. I get all quiet not saying much, I stare, and I get paranoid about everything I do in front of them. I pay close attention to my mannerisms, everything. And the worst, I stare, but hardly ever speak. I hate it. It sucks!
And I don't really like letting people know when I'm down about something, or ill. I will seriously do everything in my power to avoid showing any kind of feelings. I guess I'm just worried I'll show how I truly feel in the wrong way.
It mat be to do with the fact that when someone doesn't know you you can hide behind a mask, whereas once they know you better you feel that they can perceive any faults you may have. It's just insecurity. Try to build up more friendships with people who have similar interests as you and you will feel more accepted for who you are. Takes time though.