If you honestly hate your children and your wife and this isn't just a dramatic rant on the internet to expel some of your pent up anger towards them when deep down you in fact do still love and rely on them... LEAVE THEM.
You only get one life and stress can cut it short. Follow your own advice, pay the kids support from a distance and start anew. Sometimes things don't work out how you'd like them to, and if you can't improve your lot standing still, step out and go somewhere different.
I have no problem paying either however, while I am not wealthy I have many assets. I'm a civil engineer and I make good money but I also invest and as a result I have multiple assets and from the legal advice that I have gotten, other than paying out my ass in alimony she will get at least 30% of my portfolio which would be horrible because she knows nothing of investments and those are stocks that, if I sold tomorrow, would be worth tens of thousands and she'd spend herself into a hole... AGAIN. She has no financial management skills and the only thing standing between our family and homelessness is that fact that she's locked out of all of the major accounts.
I don't know if I could trust her to use the money wisely and keep the kids fed and clothed.
I can't really see much of a way around that though. If you stay with your wife and kids simply because you don't trust your wife to correctly spend the money she'd receive upon your divorce, you're remaining miserable simply to protect some financial assets. What do you GAIN from that scenario? You retain stocks but stay unhappy.
Financial stability is great, but if you have to choose between financial stability and the possibility of having a happy and fulfilling existence with people you love, the latter option wins, does it not?
You said you DESPISE your children, so what does it matter to you if they're fed or clothed? Unless you were simply expressing your frustration and saying things you don't actually mean?
It's not just the financial assets, it's the children. I know how my wife is with finances and I know that she would neglect to feed the children. And yes, I despise my children, but they are still my children and it is still my responsibility as a parent to see to it that they are provided for. I'm sorry that you don't understand that but my personal feelings are not allowed to decide whether or not I am their Father.
well you let her waste the money, starve the kids for a few days, either she will learn to deal with money better or the kids will learn who the better parent truly is and move in with you
Is it normal that I DESPISE my kids?
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If you honestly hate your children and your wife and this isn't just a dramatic rant on the internet to expel some of your pent up anger towards them when deep down you in fact do still love and rely on them... LEAVE THEM.
You only get one life and stress can cut it short. Follow your own advice, pay the kids support from a distance and start anew. Sometimes things don't work out how you'd like them to, and if you can't improve your lot standing still, step out and go somewhere different.
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Problem is, child support and alimony.
I have no problem paying either however, while I am not wealthy I have many assets. I'm a civil engineer and I make good money but I also invest and as a result I have multiple assets and from the legal advice that I have gotten, other than paying out my ass in alimony she will get at least 30% of my portfolio which would be horrible because she knows nothing of investments and those are stocks that, if I sold tomorrow, would be worth tens of thousands and she'd spend herself into a hole... AGAIN. She has no financial management skills and the only thing standing between our family and homelessness is that fact that she's locked out of all of the major accounts.
I don't know if I could trust her to use the money wisely and keep the kids fed and clothed.
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Yeah, that does sound like a problem.
I can't really see much of a way around that though. If you stay with your wife and kids simply because you don't trust your wife to correctly spend the money she'd receive upon your divorce, you're remaining miserable simply to protect some financial assets. What do you GAIN from that scenario? You retain stocks but stay unhappy.
Financial stability is great, but if you have to choose between financial stability and the possibility of having a happy and fulfilling existence with people you love, the latter option wins, does it not?
You said you DESPISE your children, so what does it matter to you if they're fed or clothed? Unless you were simply expressing your frustration and saying things you don't actually mean?
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It's not just the financial assets, it's the children. I know how my wife is with finances and I know that she would neglect to feed the children. And yes, I despise my children, but they are still my children and it is still my responsibility as a parent to see to it that they are provided for. I'm sorry that you don't understand that but my personal feelings are not allowed to decide whether or not I am their Father.
well you let her waste the money, starve the kids for a few days, either she will learn to deal with money better or the kids will learn who the better parent truly is and move in with you