Is it normal that i decided to lose my virginity to a fwb?

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I am twenty years old and a university student. I have never had sex before and recently decided to lose my virginity to a friends with benefits. First of all, you need to know that I have been craving sexual endeavours for quite some time now (1+ year) and that I have experimented with myself as well. I am not the kind of person to believe that my virginity is such a big deal and I do not believe in waiting for the right one to come along. However, I used to think I would lose it to a boyfriend. But as times go by, I mind less and less being single and actually love the single life. However, I want to be able to have fun with whomever I choose (not that I would). I know the guy I decided to lose my virginity to and I know he would teach me a great deal about sexual stuff and he wouldn't pressure me to have a full intercourse until I am completely ready and comfortable. He also knows that I am a virgin.

What I'm asking is... Is it normal that I want to lose my virginity to a friends with benefits? Should I even bother doing it? I know I won't get attached to him because I don't see him as boyfriend potential at all. The complete opposite. Therefore, I am not scared of having feelings develop for him.

Thanks.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago | pl

    I think that choosing someone with lots of experience and who is a friend beats doing it the first time with someone you might have deeper feelings for, but no experience.
    Nobody has a natural talent or aptitude for sex; it is a learned thing.
    Choosing a beautiful young boy is just plain foolish, as most young men are very selfish and uninterested in anything more than their own gratification. An older man will be gentler, kinder and much more concerned with your pleasure than his.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago | pl

      He is older and has way more experience than I have. I have no doubt that he will be gentler, kinder, and more concerned about my pleasure, while teaching me tricks and ensuring I am doing fine! Thank you for your comment! :)

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  • Shackleford96
    8 years ago | pl

    I think your decision is normal, yes.

    Friends with benefits typically means that your already having sex with the person by the way.

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  • eyeamnicegirl
    6 years ago | pl

    It happens sometimes by simply doing it with a friend, but most people lose it to someone they are dating (not necessarily true love, but someone they are going out with on legit dates). So, losing it to a "just friend" is not normal.

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  • relyca
    8 years ago | pl

    I was fourteen and he was my eighteen year old best friend, and I wanted to lose my virginity as fast as possible. So when he started getting icky I let him and we became fwb. We did it a few times, then we decided it wasn't a good idea to go on, considering he refused to wear condoms. Then he fucked my best friend. And now we don't speak. It's normal to want to lose it and not worry about a relationship or feelings. My experience was terrible, but that's probably because I was dealing with an emotionally immature pedophile virgin. Oh yeah. He was a virgin too. And a piece of shit person on top of that. But your guy actually sounds like he's worth your time and you trust him. So go for it gurl. If he knows what he's doing then you'll have the time of your life after the first time.

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  • Schindlerww
    8 years ago | pl

    I did that a couple of weeks ago. I have never been the relationship kind and I knew my first time wasn't probably going to be during a relationship. I met this guy, we got to be friends and he wanted a relationship from the start. I told him clearly my situation and we continued to hang out and do stuff. We kind of acted like in a relationship, but only when we were together.
    I did it with him because I felt prepared, I felt I have finally got to the point where I am sure I want to do this and he was experienced enough for me to know it won't be a disaster.
    I suggest you think about it and imagine how will you feel afterwards, if you will ask yourself if it would have been better if you were in a relationship.
    I'd like to hear from you what happened :)

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago | pl

    That guy has no idea how lucky he is. Girls like you are the most fun to turn out. Daddy takes his thumb off you and ya go buck wild. Have fun, be safe.

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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago | pl

    Normal. Enjoy!

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  • DannyKanes
    8 years ago | pl

    As long you guys are safe and everything is consensual, have fun! :)

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    8 years ago | pl

    Thank you for your insight! And lol well then something that shall turn in fwb afterwards I guess then :P

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