Is it normal that i'd rather have sex with a virgin guy?

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In all I've had sex with 3 guys. The first was a virgin, the second one was "experienced" (he was still awful), and the third was my ex. The worst part about the second guy is that it won't even matter that he was terrible because I'm just one of many to him and he can just go find someone else to have a seizure on top of for 20 minutes. The third guy, my ex, was a virgin until he met me and he wanted to take things slow and its like he was saving all his love for me. I'd much rather a virgin guy who appreciates me as his first than someone who thinks I am one of many. It was beautiful with him and he was the best I've ever had. I'd rather show him the way than him act like he knows everything and turn out to be terrible. My ex was a hard shell and really difficult to talk to, but just seeing this kind of sensitivity in such an intimate act made me enjoy it regardless if he was inexperienced.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago | pl

    What a guy that has had a few partners, but is still as genuine and caring as your ex. One that really appreciates you for who you are?

    BTW I laughed my ass off at the "seizure on top of me for 20 min" bit.

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    • Nympho2013
      11 years ago | pl

      Of course there are always exceptions :)

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        11 years ago | pl

        Lolz im glad that you are not completely pigeonholed into the virgin thing. People that get pidgeonholed end up missing great things because they dont keep an open mind lolz.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago | pl

    Sounds like because of the fact that the virgin guys you dated were nicer and better people than your ex, (and obviously more careful about having sex) that's an association that just got stuck in your mind.

    I honestly sort of have a rule against virgins after this thing in high school. My best friend at the time was saying he was sick of being a virgin, didn't wanna date anyone just lose it, and being the weird, open minded people we were I "helped" him out with that... Jump to last year, he comes back to hang out one day and takes me aside and tells me that "it's always been me..." OH DEAR GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE.

    I definitely don't want to end up in that situation again. :x Sweet a guy as he was, we are extremely different people now. And I'm in a relationship, I think he was too. >.O

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    • Nympho2013
      11 years ago | pl

      Ya know, it wasn't until recently when I started thinking about my ex being gentle during sex and that IS when I decided I liked virgin guys...so I think you're right that I am associating meaningful sex with them...

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago | pl

    i totally understand you.

    Virgin guys are way more appreciative of what's happening. They cherish it. And kind of always hold you as something special in their memory.
    Also, they usually let you gently guide them(unlike *burly voice on* experienced "real man" who know exactly what to do *burly voice off*). They genuinely want to pleasure you too, and "explore" the possibilities like a child in a theme park for the first time.
    AND: while they may waste their first shot quickly, if they had very little or no experience before, they seem to get horny again a lot quicker.

    of course, kegstand is also right :)
    and not all experienced guys will have "seizures" on top of you(nice and fitting formulation, btw.)...but i know where you're coming from in a mental avenue sort of way.

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  • januarycurse
    8 years ago | pl

    I love virgins because I am one too!

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago | pl

    Hey, I'm right here okay!

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