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Ive been in love with a douche bag for almost 7 years.. he was a high school boyfriend now ex, and i haven't seen him in over a year and somehow i still want him and think about him.. we text occasionally, but that's it. how do i move on and find someone i really love and can be with?
Do you think that, at some level, you feel you don't deserve better than him? If so, why? What's so bad about you that someone wouldn't love you and treat you properly?
To change how you feel about someone, you sometimes have to change how you feel about yourself.
love is love you can't really "force yourself" to get over it, you just do. I've liked a boy since 3rd grade, first crush and all, nothing more, right? He fake-dated me a while ago, because he was dared, for a year straight, and I still like him, and I don't even care what he did. I text and Facebook; he never replies. Ecer. I never talk to him, and I've even moved away. I still love him, I can't help it. Love is love, and interchangable by force, it drifts off when it does. It is perfectly normal.
I realize how hard it is to just "move on." Because once you find someone you compare everyone to him and even though he was a douche bag to you, he probably made you laugh or looked good with you (hopefully that's not just the only reason). Overlook the comparisons and give somebody a chance. No one seems to beat him but, don't worry give it time.
It will get easier, when you replace him with another, but most first loves always reserve a special place in your heart!
There's a reason he's an ex boyfriend, so obviously something didn't work or you'd still be together 7 years later. Get yourself out there and start meeting new people, and stop texting him. You'll find somebody who isn't a douchebag.