Is it normal that i can't trust my g/f and i resent her?

Brief version: A married girl I've known for a long time told me she wanted to get with me. Told me she loved me, she was planning on leaving her husband of 3 years. I even went to their wedding. I was never friends with him. We started seeing each other & after a few months (5) she got pregnant. It's my kid for sure. She separates from her husband, moves out of their house and back with her parents. After a year the papers get signed but they're still not actually divorced. Throughout her being pregnant she starts acting more distant toward me, the "I love you's" stop. After MUCH persuasion from me she moves in when the kid is born cause I want to be there full time. Now I'm finding myself always suspicious of her, resentful, finding myself hating her sometimes. Will I ever be able to trust her? Some days I love her, more often than not I'm resenting her. WTF? I know I'm an idiot for even getting involved with her in the first place, so spare me lectures if you can. I love my little boy very much and can't stand the thought of not seeing him everyday or some other guy being in his life. These thoughts are consuming me. Is this all normal or what? Or do I need to see a therapist or something? Thx for reading!

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  • Hard decision if nothing else you have to support the baby ur respectability

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  • die

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  • You can't post in here and ask for people not to lecture you, when you so clearly need the lecture.

    Sucks to be you at this point - I wouldn't trust her either. I had a married woman fall in love with me once, I fucked her a lot of times but let her know in no uncertain terms when she wanted to leave her husband for me that she was a fuckbuddy and nothing more.

    Foresight - easier than experience.

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  • I completely understand your situation. Perhaps from her standpoint she has realized that the reasons she was attracted to you in the beginning are not things that a marriage can be built on. You should talk to her and find out what she is feeling. I have had a very similar situation myself, so I truly understand your problem. The best thing for any relationship is communication.

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  • Ah the old lesson of 'if she cheated with me, than she'll cheat on me.'

    Try talking to her about how you're feeling and how she's been acting. If that doesn't help move up to counsiling.

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  • What goes around...

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  • Wow...that's a tough one. I think it's normal to have trust issues seeing how she was married when you got together and I'm sure it's even worse now that's she's being distant. Maybe couples counsling is the way to go and if she won't join you I'm sure talking to someone one your own couldn't hurt. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you and your family.

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