Is it normal that i can't stop thinking about what could have been?

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I met this guy online and we met each other in person. We hit it off very well and met up to see each other for dinner another time. After this, we went on what I considered a first date since he picked me up in his car and we went out to the city for the full day. At the end of the night of that day, he told me was crazy about me and even told me to consider thinking about being his girlfriend. I was so ecstatic inside. The next week following this day, he was minimally texting me so I figured he was busy with work. Then, when the next date rolled around, he wanted me to come over to his place for the date. I told him that I do not feel comfortable doing that at this time and he asked me why I did not trust him, even though it was not about trust, but rather a personal choice. The next day, he ended things with me and told me that he is not ready for a relationship at this time and that when he is ready, he will contact me. I am so confused and upset and I wish so deeply that things turned out differently. It has been a week since this happened and I am still upset about this. Is this normal

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    He wanted sex, and saw you taking things slow as you rejecting him.

    In the end, you dodged a bullet. He's only thinking about himself, and didn't even ask why you were uncomfortable; he just assumed it's because of trust. Selfishness and irrational assumptions are huge red flags, no matter how nice of a time you two were having.

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  • Keepsake
    7 years ago

    Basically, he impulsively wanted to date you despite not knowing you well enough nor long enough. Don't trust people like that. That's the first red flag.

    He basically 'ghosted' you. He's the type of guy who will contact you when he wants something then throw you away when he gets (or doesn't get) what he wants.

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  • ojimpu
    6 years ago

    When he said he's not ready he's on the hunt and placed you on hold so when his hoes are scramming he'd hit you up.

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  • Blackstarxd
    7 years ago

    I hate those kind of guys the most. They led you on to just end it when you tell them you want to take it slow when all they want is just sex from you. I been thru that and I'm glad he ended it so that the good guy will come along.

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