Is it normal that i can't stop lying?

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I find it easier to lie to people then just tell them the truth. I can't tell the truth, once I start thinking about what really happened I freeze and I can't continue what I'm saying. It's really embarrassing and I think it has turned into a phobia now. Whatever I say is a lie, I lie about my birthday, my age, my name sometimes, everything in between. My family knows something is wrong with me, they have treated me like a baby for the past few years, Im 22 years old! Its pathetic and embarrassing! I can't say what's on my FREAKING mind! All my life I have been told that I am slow, everyone who knows me, knows me, so to speak, they know all this, Im 22, I have so many problems in my head I can't think straight at all. I have been living with anxiety disorder since I was 18 years old, i am a massive depressive, been throughtout my life even in early ages, im paranoid 24/7, i think old friends for high school are going to come and make fun of me in college, where I am now, also not going so great. I just recently lost about 70 lbs, and i have been trying to get laid for the first time, but its bad, so far all the girls in my classes think im a creep or phcyco, however you spell it. I also I have heart disease, idk if that has anything to do with what going on with me, but anyway ive never done this before and i hope you can understand what im writing, sometimes i dont make anysense. let me know if this is normal. thank u:)

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  • Koda
    12 years ago

    Ignore the above person who seems to think everything revolves around sex... You really actually remind me of a guy I know. He's your age and also a compulsive liar... weirdly enough he also fears being stalked by bullies from his high school. I have tried to confront him about his constant lies, but he gets really angry with me when I do. I don't think your anxiety or depression has much to do with your lying. Most compulsive liars start off lying to defend themselves, because the truth has hurt them in the past. They create this shell.. this fake world, and they feel quite comfortable within it. What you have to do is just stop lying. It's easier if you stop the little white lies first, and finally start telling the truth about major facts of your life. Tell it like it is, and calm down when you talk to people. Telling the truth will start to feel good, trust me. You'll have more confidence when everyone around you knows the real you, and you can be yourself. BTW it's spelled "psycho"

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  • the10thmuse
    12 years ago

    Sometimes lies are more fun, and they're also often much easier and safer. I have anxiety because I sense my impending death (even though i'm healthy and 23) and I worry that I'm not doing enough that's significant with my life. This turns into a depression, where I give up, deciding there's no point in even trying. And, if there is ever a time that a lie is even slightly more convenient than the truth, I tell it. I am nowhere near as extreme as you sound, but I can sympathize. It honestly seriously sounds like you need to find and pursue a passion in your life. Don't worry about getting laid. Figure out what path you should be on. What's important to you? Pursue that while working on cutting down on lies, just like Koda said... and try to manage your anxiety and depression. The two things that help me the most are remembering that if it's in my head, then I at least have some control over it, and also that any anxiety or depression will eventually pass and change into a new emotion. When someone sees you a few years from now and recognizes your confidence and quirkiness, they will be attracted to you! Don't seek out getting laid first... seek out YOUR LIFE and the rest will follow.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    I have to say that I feel your pain. It really sucks when people treat you like you're a 4 yr old, or like you have some sort of mental problem, like you're slow or something when you know you aren't. I'm sort of struggling a little bit with some of the things you mentioned. I never really lie, but lately, I lie about what I'm feeling. Like, "How are you?"... "Oh, I'm great!". I can't believe its actually come down to this where I pretend I'm feeling happy when really I'm feeling sad.

    I think you should look into speaking with a professional about this. And I agree with everything Koda said.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    People avoid liars like the plague! Stop it or you'll never get laid.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    How do I know your telling the truth??

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