Is it normal that i can't stand my stepdaughter
Looking for advice from stepmother's. I have a 7 year old step daughter. I have been in her life since she was 4. Her parents divorced at age 2. We used to get a long great but in the past year we can't stand each other. She is very immature, manipulative, and has no independence skills at all. She whines and cries over everything whenever she is told to do anything eat her dinner clean up her room go play she will fake cry and say she is sad so of course her daddy lets her get out of what she was supposed to do because his "baby"is crying. My son from a previous marriage who is 9 and lives with us full time ends up having to do everything. If her dad doesn't give her her way she cries to go home then dad is so upset she said that she ends up getting her way. She talks like a baby which is not her normal voice we have heard her normal tone but if she wants a drink she will stand there and in a 2 year old whiny voice sounding like she is going to cry she will say I'm firsty pwease can I have a dwink I'm not exaggerating that is how she will sound. She lies constantly. If I don't go to bed by a certain time she will take my place in bed so I have to sleep on the couch and of course dad doesn't make her move my husband holds my son accountable for everything he even yells at him for even rolling his eyes but she can turn the house upside down and he gets down on his knee and "talks"to her he says to her baby this honey that in a baby voice and thinks she will learn a lesson. My husband is a wonderful man but he is so scared if he disciplines or yells at her she won't come to our house. He is too concerned about being her best friend. She constantly shoves her mother in my face. She will say in the middle of dinner my mom is the best then look at me and say you know my dad married her first. She will show old pictures of my husband with his ex wife to me and say look at daddy next to my mommy don't they look great together. She doesn't even remember them being married so I don't understand why she does this. She hasn't always done it. It started about a year ago. She does weird things too I wake up in the morning and she doesn't realize I'm awake and I observe her standing in one spot staring at her father sleep for a hour straight. I don't know what to do. She lies to her mother and says we don't feed her or have water. She says we don't have a tooth brush for her all bullshit she is so incredibly spoiled at our house I don't know why she says these lies about us. Then when she is here she tells her dad she likes our house better then mommy's. I am to the point where I refuse to be left alone with her I stay in my room as much as I can when she is here. I'm not mean to her but I avoid her because I made her fold her laundry a few months ago and now when were alone together she screams and freaks out for her dad and says I make her nervous. I never yell at her have never hit her I don't know where all this is coming from. I can't stand her anymore I'm miserable when she is here. I hate that I hate her but she hasn't left me much choice.