Is it normal that i can't really be mean?

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I really hate that I'm just weak and can't be mean to anyone intentionally. For example, if a friend started being a dick and doesn't like me anymore, I just can't block them/stop hanging around them because I'm scared that they'll be sad that I did it! One of my friends tried to tell me that if someone is being a dick and they're sad that I blocked them its their fault but I still can't do it. Am I just weak?

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    It seems to me you can only see the two extremes of being mean or not looking after yourself: the latter is quite possible to do without being nasty or mean. Have a good think about your boundaries and what you're prepared to accept from other people and if you're not happy with how you're being treated, politely withdraw from them, with or without telling them why.

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  • Bitmap
    4 years ago

    I have a friend like this. She refuses to block her ex who LITERALLY ABUSED HER because he might get upset and kill himself and she would feel bad and it would be her fault. LIKE WHAT THE FUCK NO. That's putting a lot of power in your actions tbh. You're not that powerful. People do not put that much stock in what you think and do and say. It's a very ego centric view of the world. Get over yourself.

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    Eventually you will have to stand up for yourself or continue to be used. Your choice.

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  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    You are overthinking

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    You're not afraid they will be sad, you're afraid they won't like you anymore.
    That's a risk you'll have to take if you want people to respect you.

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