Is it normal that i can't look into anybody's eyes?

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even if its family i can't maintain eye contact for more than a second without feeling uncomfortable and panicky.

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  • bigbudchonga
    3 years ago | pl

    Yor probs have anxiety, maybe autism

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  • Phoebe2005
    3 years ago | pl

    Been doing it since like ages (: I think people just have to accept that staring into someone’s eyes when talking is just like whole new levels of creepy uncomfortable

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago | pl

      Well, you're supposed to look people in the eye, not stare into their eyes.

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      • Phoebe2005
        3 years ago | pl

        What’s the difference?

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        • RoseIsabella
          3 years ago | pl

          Go do a search on the difference between good eye contact, and staring too much into people's eyes on Google, and or YouTube.

          It's kinda hard for me to explain, because for a lot of people it's just sort of natural. I used to look down at the floor a lot when I was a kid, because I was shy I guess. Somewhere along the line I was told that I needed to look people in the eye when I was talking to them, and I guess I got the hang of it so now it's just become second nature.

          I do vaguely remember looking at the spot right between a person's eyes when I was first trying to get the hang of it.

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          • Phoebe2005
            3 years ago | pl

            I so can’t imagine how awkward that would be looking between someone’s eyes I think I’d go red as a beetroot after just a few seconds. I will look it up tho.

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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
    3 years ago | pl

    It makes me angry for some reason.

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  • Tintan
    3 years ago | pl

    Yeah I don’t look people in the eye not even my own family I think it bugs them tho

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  • Psychokev
    3 years ago | pl

    This is a trait of asd, doesnt mean you have that though.

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  • The_Judge
    3 years ago | pl

    Probably social anxiety. I recomend you practice mainteining it since it is often seen as unpolite to avoid it.

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  • Grunewald
    3 years ago | pl

    In some cultures it's rude to look at people in the eye. I remember having to train some students to do it.

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  • controversy
    3 years ago | pl

    Take amphetamines to boost ur confidence.

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  • leggs91200
    3 years ago | pl

    Just try to focus looking into one eye instead of both, that might help. If you try to look both eyes, it gets awkward. or maybe focus on the upper bridge of their nose, like right between the eyes.

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  • Plapp
    3 years ago | pl

    Its normal for some, you may want to check your thyroid levels, many people with high thyroid has more need for privacy and alone-time and staring into peoples eyes can feel like a privacy violation.
    Dont let anyone diagnose you with social anxiety, as thats just a symptom of real sicknesses. Getting medicated for social anxiety is like eating painkillers to treat a broken leg or heartattack. You need to treat the cause, not the symptoms, anxiety meds will destroy you but betablockers will probably take care of the worst symptoms without any damage to your psyche or other bad sideeffects.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    3 years ago | pl

    It can show sexual attraction. If your on a date and you avoid eye contact, good luck getting anywhere. It can seem professional in other setting too so try and lose this habit.

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago | pl

    There’s times it creeps me out.

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  • Cliche1234
    3 years ago | pl

    Maybe you're suffering from social anxiety. It's a common sign for someone with social anxiety. I am like you OP but only with strangers I don't know or just met. I can get panic as hell when I talk while looking at them in the eyes as if they're local Medusas due to the feeling of insecurity and fear of being judged . Never happened with family and friends though.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago | pl

    I used to be like that as a kid, but now I pretty much always look people in the eye.

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