Is it normal that i can't handle any kind of criticism?

I am a regular guy. Sometimes, like any other human being, I screw up. I do notice whenever I make a mistake and I usually try to fix up my error... However... if someone else tells me something about it, I snap.

I just really can't handle it. I react really bad, I argue with people, insult them and even deny I made a mistake (even though I do know they are right). Sometimes I even do this at work... whenever my boss complains about something I am trying to fix already... suddenly I don't want to keep doing it anymore.

I know that my attitude isn't probably the best... but I was wondering if there was anyone else like this...

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  • Justsomejerk

    I won't point out the obvious grammatical error.

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  • jimrichy

    Some constructive criticism is that you can't continue to get angry when someone criticises. This may be an inconvenience for now but as time goes on this maladapive behaviour could become extremely problematic.
    How do you expect to keep a job with such outbursts? Or engage in meaningful relationships? People don't like it when someone flies of the handle when they say something that is completely justified.

    My advice would be o try some cognitive-behavioural therapy type techniques. Google 'CBT ABC form' or 'CBT thought record'. It will help you to contain yourself, manage your emotions and see things rationally from the other persons perspective.
    I sincerely wish you luck with changing your behaviour.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs

    You sound like a little bitch to be honest.

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  • disthing

    I can be sensitive when people criticise my music or artwork - it's so personal to me that I find it hard not to feel hurt. So I understand what you mean.

    There are some things, however, I totally accept criticism for. My shit time keeping being one of them, my reluctance to go out and socialise as much as I should etc.

    You have to recognise the difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism. Constructive criticism can help you develop, do a better job, improve your situation and more. Destructive criticism in no way benefits you, it's negativity that can damage your self-esteem, demotivate you and hurt you.

    You should also try and step back from your emotions and look at the situation objectively. Is the criticism warranted? Can I learn from it - take it on board and use it to improve? Is it totally unwarranted and should I therefore ignore it or calmly and rationally challenge it? Even if inside your blood is boiling, don't express that frustration, just pause and consider the criticism. Then react appropriately. I know it's easier said than done, because I need to improve on this too, but I think if we both work at it it's possible.

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  • sswillly

    it kind of annoyed me to read this to be honest. you sound childish

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  • pacinoharmon

    Not normal or healthy. It's okay to be mad if someone insults you, but honest criticism isn't the same as insulting. Even if it sounds rude, maybe they don't mean it that way. For a second I thought I knew who this was, until I saw you're a guy. lol

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  • 69

    one thing is to know you are wrong and accept that anyone around you can see it and that some may mention it, while others may not. it doesn't mean they aren't aware of it as well. it shouldn't matter whether your faults have been pointed out to you or not. recognize them yourself and try to fix them, regardless of outside judgment

    try to see it from the other person's perspective instead of your own. mainly when people criticize they don't mean to directly attack you but express frustration at the situation itself

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  • DADNSCAL

    No one likes criticism, but to overreact sounds like you were raised in an overly critical environment. If people are being derogatory, tell them their criticism is unwanted. But if someone offers you constructive criticism, thank them and learn from it.

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  • NotStrangeBird

    Someday you might be boss. Think of what it'd be like to have a squadron of you's running around getting all prickly and acting like a baby when you say anything to them.

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  • Saycheese

    It's best you improve yourself if you don't want to react that way and don't want to feel the pain inside. Everybody makes mistakes and nobody is perfect; we all are human beings that need to help each other through life.

    Here is a handy website that can help:

    http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-deal-with-criticism-well-25-reasons-to-embrace-it/

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Not normal if you're doing it in the workplace. At my job we've had many people like this over the years. Each and every one of them was fired.

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  • 2_damgud_4

    Ever heard of drinking a cup of concrete & hardening the fuck up ?! Sheesh .. !!

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  • lem0nkeyface

    It is normal, but you should definitely work on that.

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  • bristexai

    That's why I don't criticize.

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  • RoseIsabella

    My mother acts like that and I hate it!

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Bambmbmbmb

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    • AntiSpark

      You just died! every time the smallest unit of time goes by, the previous you dies!

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      • Terence_the_viking

        Same goes for you too mr ooh look at me i am so clever.

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        • AntiSpark

          I just write what I'm supposed to.

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          • Terence_the_viking

            Couldn't the same be said for us all.

            Bananas

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