It's normal to have trouble getting over relationships, especially important "key" ones. They're a part of what shapes us. It's good to grieve and it's normal for everyone to remember someone in their heart. But beware. Actively make an effort to move on, though it can't be forced and there's no definitive time scale. Be careful not to obsess or put that person on a "perfect-pedestal." I've had guys do this to me and it's painful & disrespectful to hear them obsess over and compare me to their long-lost exes. It also shows they're choosing to stay stuck in the past, not grow and learn from it. If you really still feel this strongly, confront that person about it (who knows?) or try to let it go. As la_uva_mojada said "...keep busy by working on yourSELF for a while and get into the groove, then you'll reap multiple benefits and be happiest all the way around." Loving yourself first (non-vain way) is a must. And MusiCman, that happens to me too..." sounds like your not over the possibilty of what could have been. Not him exactly." Sometimes we love someone for what they're not but think they can be. Or maybe we love what could have been and haven't come to terms with the fact that everything we've worked for is most likely not going to happen. At least not with that person. Relationships are a never-ending investment. Sounds like maybe you can benefit with examining the whys of it to find out why you're still feeling this way. You'll eventually move on, and someday the bitterness may fall away. Be kind to yourself though. You can do it <3.
Is it normal that i can't get over him even after 3 yrs?
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It's normal to have trouble getting over relationships, especially important "key" ones. They're a part of what shapes us. It's good to grieve and it's normal for everyone to remember someone in their heart. But beware. Actively make an effort to move on, though it can't be forced and there's no definitive time scale. Be careful not to obsess or put that person on a "perfect-pedestal." I've had guys do this to me and it's painful & disrespectful to hear them obsess over and compare me to their long-lost exes. It also shows they're choosing to stay stuck in the past, not grow and learn from it. If you really still feel this strongly, confront that person about it (who knows?) or try to let it go. As la_uva_mojada said "...keep busy by working on yourSELF for a while and get into the groove, then you'll reap multiple benefits and be happiest all the way around." Loving yourself first (non-vain way) is a must. And MusiCman, that happens to me too..." sounds like your not over the possibilty of what could have been. Not him exactly." Sometimes we love someone for what they're not but think they can be. Or maybe we love what could have been and haven't come to terms with the fact that everything we've worked for is most likely not going to happen. At least not with that person. Relationships are a never-ending investment. Sounds like maybe you can benefit with examining the whys of it to find out why you're still feeling this way. You'll eventually move on, and someday the bitterness may fall away. Be kind to yourself though. You can do it <3.