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Is it normal for me to prefer anal intercourse over vaginal? My husband obliges me but won't cum inside me.
I can achieve tremendous orgasms when I masturbate using a dildo in my ass,not so good when I have a dildo or a penis in my pussy.I would like to talk to Therapist but I am too embarrassed. Please shed some light on a dark subject.
Very, very normal. Why won't your husband cum in your ass? You should make it clear to him that you need to get fucked anally in order to enjoy any pleasure from sex and to orgasm.
Talking about anal stimulation, a finger in the ass should not weaken your anus, so in the long run if you prefer your boyfriend can stick a thumb in your ass and wiggle it while having vaginal sex with you. This is both safe and can give you better orgasm.
Anal sex with proper warmup will not weaken your anal muscles either. What weakens them is injury from forceful penetration that causes intense pain and other injury. If you start with a finger, work up to two, then three, and gradually open up the anus rather than forcing it open painfully, you will not injure anything and can proceed to engage in safe and enjoyable anal intercourse. Just as you warm up your muscles before exercising to avoid injuring yourself, you warm up your anal muscles before sex and you won't injure them.
Proper anal sex actually strengthens your anal muscles rather than the long believed myth about weakening them. This is partly because you develop more conscious muscle control which allows you to relax your muscles (they aren't stretching, they're relaxing) to allow sex, and then they naturally tighten again after. With this approach, you can engage in anal sex for a lifetime, or even more advanced and extreme anal sex acts, without injuring your anal muscles or resulting in any sort of permanent looseness. There are people in their 70s and 80s who have received frequent anal sex most of their life and who have zero issues with anal looseness or incontinence. It's a myth rooted in homophobia which still persists—and it's always the people with little to no anal experience who spread it, while the people who are getting nonstop dick in the ass know otherwise, from experience.
Every one has their kinks.
Gay men enjoy sex for a reason, because anal pleasure feels good. Why can't women enjoy it, too?
It's perfectly normal.