I love you after reading this. This is an nice and eloquent statement and I do believe there is some truth to it.
I actually was only going to comment to say that my best friend is a nice guy struggling terribly to meet nice girls. Then I read this and am forced to admit that he has fallen prey to this recent social norm.
He is awesome in many ways. Yet he fails because he is almost (very important distinction there) too scared to approach women and sometimes I hear the whining and complaining about how women only like bad-boys. At which point I give him a verbal whipping and tell him that the so-called bad boys only get the luck because they get out there and talk to girls. He agrees and yet he is still terrified of the damage done by rejection and silence. I have witnessed how coldly women have reacted to his attempts at online contact. I feel for him. He deserves better, but I continue to encourage him to develop, be braver and try more often.
So I suppose my advice to you is do your absolute best to look kind and approachable so that these types of guys who are too accustomed to being rejected might actually get the courage to talk to you. It would also help if you initiate conversation with the quiet guys. You never know what personality might be revealed when they start to feel more secure.
Is it normal that I can't find these so-called good guys?
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I love you after reading this. This is an nice and eloquent statement and I do believe there is some truth to it.
I actually was only going to comment to say that my best friend is a nice guy struggling terribly to meet nice girls. Then I read this and am forced to admit that he has fallen prey to this recent social norm.
He is awesome in many ways. Yet he fails because he is almost (very important distinction there) too scared to approach women and sometimes I hear the whining and complaining about how women only like bad-boys. At which point I give him a verbal whipping and tell him that the so-called bad boys only get the luck because they get out there and talk to girls. He agrees and yet he is still terrified of the damage done by rejection and silence. I have witnessed how coldly women have reacted to his attempts at online contact. I feel for him. He deserves better, but I continue to encourage him to develop, be braver and try more often.
So I suppose my advice to you is do your absolute best to look kind and approachable so that these types of guys who are too accustomed to being rejected might actually get the courage to talk to you. It would also help if you initiate conversation with the quiet guys. You never know what personality might be revealed when they start to feel more secure.