I would actually suggest having a bit of alcohol, maybe some wine, before you go at it, and make sure you're all clean inside. Most of anal is all in your head, because it is sometimes very difficult to control the muscles that clamp you shut.
The alcohol will help you relax. The more you want it the easier it will go, too. Open up with a very small toy, sharpie sized or so... the size is not as important as the relaxation. (You can think of it as you should be able to take something in as big as anything you let out of there... if you relax properly)
Concentrate on wanting him inside you and try to use your muscles down there as though you were pushing. Having better muscle control will also let you clamp down on him hard at strategic times.. hehe
I got a lot better after I started using a regular water enema (hose attached to shower)
Is it normal that I can't bottom after almost 2 years?
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I would actually suggest having a bit of alcohol, maybe some wine, before you go at it, and make sure you're all clean inside. Most of anal is all in your head, because it is sometimes very difficult to control the muscles that clamp you shut.
The alcohol will help you relax. The more you want it the easier it will go, too. Open up with a very small toy, sharpie sized or so... the size is not as important as the relaxation. (You can think of it as you should be able to take something in as big as anything you let out of there... if you relax properly)
Concentrate on wanting him inside you and try to use your muscles down there as though you were pushing. Having better muscle control will also let you clamp down on him hard at strategic times.. hehe
I got a lot better after I started using a regular water enema (hose attached to shower)