I had a friend like that. I know this is kind of bad but I just don't talk to her anymore because she drained me. She constantly complained to me and what I told her finally was that she needed to get out more... she doesn't ever get out. She turned around saying I have too much to do I can't. My thoughts: "Yep working at Arby's is too much and me going to college is nothing." She hasn't bothered to call me since... I was rather nice about it too. But whatever she was way too immature for her age. As I grew older the more I realized that. She's still in the highschool world while I'm in the adult world.
I seem to be a magnet for people like that, simply because I'm often nice. But there's a difference between being nice and genuinely wanting to hear people moan all day. People like your ex-friend don't seem to spot that.
Just because I'm listening without complaint, doesn't mean I'm enjoying someone sucking the life out of me!
Sounds like you've had a lucky escape, by the way.
Is it normal that I can't be mean to her?
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It's a common myth that we need to be mean to each other. Being nice against all provocation can often show greater strength of character.
Put it like this, I'd much sooner have you as a friend than her.
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I had a friend like that. I know this is kind of bad but I just don't talk to her anymore because she drained me. She constantly complained to me and what I told her finally was that she needed to get out more... she doesn't ever get out. She turned around saying I have too much to do I can't. My thoughts: "Yep working at Arby's is too much and me going to college is nothing." She hasn't bothered to call me since... I was rather nice about it too. But whatever she was way too immature for her age. As I grew older the more I realized that. She's still in the highschool world while I'm in the adult world.
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I seem to be a magnet for people like that, simply because I'm often nice. But there's a difference between being nice and genuinely wanting to hear people moan all day. People like your ex-friend don't seem to spot that.
Just because I'm listening without complaint, doesn't mean I'm enjoying someone sucking the life out of me!
Sounds like you've had a lucky escape, by the way.
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Thanks. And I agree for sure.
If she would ever care to see how I'm doing she'll call, but I don't see that happening anytime soon.