I disagree actually...
We living in what is termed as the information age, whereby the old way of meeting people would be to go out and mingle, as opposed to the new way of social networking.
Each of these arenas come with both its pros and cons, for example in mingling you are generally 1st attracted to a persons physical appearance, else you would not take the time of day to talk to them, whereas online you begin speaking without the need of being physically attracted.
With this has comes the loss of inhibition, as since you cannot see the person, you are willing to speak your mind and, hence there are no boundaries, whereas in reality, its not that easy speaking your mind to someone you are attracted to, out of fear of certain insecurities that you may have.
Now the problem comes in to the realm of FANTASY vs REALITY.
Is the person real online, or are they just a fantasy of their own imagination.
In reality, you cannot be a fantasy, for the communication line is more direct. With fantasy, you might be talking to some old, bald, fat, peadophile, and imagine a young vibrant proffesional person, as that is what they have portrayed themselves to be.
By the time that you realise that they are not what they make themselves ought to be, you are already entangled in the addictive world of social networking.
In simple words, I have nothing against online relationships, but they come with a far greater risk of danger then opposed to meeting for the first time in reality...
P.S. at least in a bar you can make out who the hooligans are, and perhaps if you still pick one of those types, your choices are whats questionable;)
lol point taken, and I actually like that quote, however, U do know OSCAR WILDE was only a poetic author. Quite succesful too, but still IRISH:):) (no offence to the Irish..hehe)
Heres another one to ponder about, from a rather renound philosopher:
“All great things must first wear terrifying and monstrous masks in order to inscribe themselves on the hearts of humanity.”
-Friedrich Nietzsche
Now the problem comes in when figuring out who the mask is worn by? - The person in Reality whom cannot hide there emotions, and has no time to ponder or rethink an answer or an action, or by the person online, who's pretending to be something his not, has all the time in the world to change, edit, and rethink his answers and ways, and hence being something totally different to his reality???
Id rather be safe and stick to meeting the person in reality before speaking online, as in the days of old;)
I haven't had a date sends 06. I never know the right things to say and I am really shy at first. How I get around that is I'll joke around a little bit.
I think of my problem is growing up I really didn't have a social life with kids. From the time I was 7 I went to work and I don't mean doing kids work.
I used to work with my dad and you have to picture him 375 pounds two words did not exist to him the word now and the word impossible. When he heard the word no it was just enough that anybody in his path had better run like hell.
As far as the word impossible he said that just means you don't wanna do it, because if you did wanna do it you would figure out a way.
By the time I was 12 hours picking up oxygen and settlin bottles the oxygen bottle is taller than many wait about 150 pounds I would get it into a bear hug and carry it sometimes 500 to 600 feet with no help.
So I never really got to hang out with kids my age. When my dad was done working it was off to the bar. We use to leave the house at 4:30 AM and not get back home no earlier than 8:00 PM seven days a week. There was some nights we didn't get back home until 1:00 AM and we still left at 4:30 AM.
But there's one thing I can honestly and truthfully say I would do with anything to have my dad back. Just the way he was would be fine with me. I could say so much more.
I'm sure most kids growing up didn't grow up the way I did. I would not change anything growing up if I had a chance to win all over again.
Is it normal that I can only get a boyfriend online?
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I disagree actually...
We living in what is termed as the information age, whereby the old way of meeting people would be to go out and mingle, as opposed to the new way of social networking.
Each of these arenas come with both its pros and cons, for example in mingling you are generally 1st attracted to a persons physical appearance, else you would not take the time of day to talk to them, whereas online you begin speaking without the need of being physically attracted.
With this has comes the loss of inhibition, as since you cannot see the person, you are willing to speak your mind and, hence there are no boundaries, whereas in reality, its not that easy speaking your mind to someone you are attracted to, out of fear of certain insecurities that you may have.
Now the problem comes in to the realm of FANTASY vs REALITY.
Is the person real online, or are they just a fantasy of their own imagination.
In reality, you cannot be a fantasy, for the communication line is more direct. With fantasy, you might be talking to some old, bald, fat, peadophile, and imagine a young vibrant proffesional person, as that is what they have portrayed themselves to be.
By the time that you realise that they are not what they make themselves ought to be, you are already entangled in the addictive world of social networking.
In simple words, I have nothing against online relationships, but they come with a far greater risk of danger then opposed to meeting for the first time in reality...
P.S. at least in a bar you can make out who the hooligans are, and perhaps if you still pick one of those types, your choices are whats questionable;)
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"A man is least himself when speaking in his own person. Give him a mask and he will tell the truth."
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lol point taken, and I actually like that quote, however, U do know OSCAR WILDE was only a poetic author. Quite succesful too, but still IRISH:):) (no offence to the Irish..hehe)
Heres another one to ponder about, from a rather renound philosopher:
“All great things must first wear terrifying and monstrous masks in order to inscribe themselves on the hearts of humanity.”
-Friedrich Nietzsche
Now the problem comes in when figuring out who the mask is worn by? - The person in Reality whom cannot hide there emotions, and has no time to ponder or rethink an answer or an action, or by the person online, who's pretending to be something his not, has all the time in the world to change, edit, and rethink his answers and ways, and hence being something totally different to his reality???
Id rather be safe and stick to meeting the person in reality before speaking online, as in the days of old;)
Also online you can't tell if they smell/have bad hygiene!
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LMAO EXACTLY:)
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I'm guessing your not a big online dater
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I haven't had a date sends 06. I never know the right things to say and I am really shy at first. How I get around that is I'll joke around a little bit.
I think of my problem is growing up I really didn't have a social life with kids. From the time I was 7 I went to work and I don't mean doing kids work.
I used to work with my dad and you have to picture him 375 pounds two words did not exist to him the word now and the word impossible. When he heard the word no it was just enough that anybody in his path had better run like hell.
As far as the word impossible he said that just means you don't wanna do it, because if you did wanna do it you would figure out a way.
By the time I was 12 hours picking up oxygen and settlin bottles the oxygen bottle is taller than many wait about 150 pounds I would get it into a bear hug and carry it sometimes 500 to 600 feet with no help.
So I never really got to hang out with kids my age. When my dad was done working it was off to the bar. We use to leave the house at 4:30 AM and not get back home no earlier than 8:00 PM seven days a week. There was some nights we didn't get back home until 1:00 AM and we still left at 4:30 AM.
But there's one thing I can honestly and truthfully say I would do with anything to have my dad back. Just the way he was would be fine with me. I could say so much more.
I'm sure most kids growing up didn't grow up the way I did. I would not change anything growing up if I had a chance to win all over again.