Oh, I completely understand you, and I agree that it needs to be easier for those who DO want to adopt to actually get to do it. It's so sad when adoptions don't come through for people who have been working so hard and giving so much of their heart and soul to try to give a child a good home. The system really does need to change. And it's really sad, but it's true what you say about people wanting babies instead of children.
In my own opinion, I feel that two things need to happen. One, is of course, changing things to it's easier for the right people to get children. And I also feel it's important to take away that negative stigma that adoption holds for a lot of people. So many people feel adoption is a bad thing, or that those kids don't mean as much as a child who would have happened to be born and raised by their birth parents. The stigma really needs to change, IMO.
Yes, it's very sad. I agree with you. Why don't they get people to fix the Adoption process so people wanting to adopt can? Why can't people be more open to kids past infancy/toddlerhood? Why must people be so shallow when it comes to that? Kids past the age of 3 need to be adopted too. Don't those people know that, or do they just not care? And why can't Adoption be viewed as a great thing? It could probably even be viewed better than having birthchildren. I'm sorry i'm asking so many questions. Personally, if I were to adopt, i would adopt a older child that's 7 to 12 years of age or a 2-kid sibling group in my age perference above. I believe it's wrong to adopt otherwise. What about you? Would you adopt? And if you did, how old would the child or sibling group be? What's your perference i mean.
Thank you. I'm glad you like it. I'm really sorry about your issues. If i must be honest with you, so do i. I have Asperger's, I'm on SSI, and i'll never be able to work fulltime because of my lack of social skills and my SSI forbiding it pretty much. I mean, i'd like to adopt very much but when i'm honest with myself, it just seems so hopeless because of how slim a chance i'd have of succeeding. What do you think? Do you think i'd have any chance of adopting?
Aw man, it's kind of weird how much we have in common. I also have Asperger's and am on SSI (not for that, but I also have bipolar disorder, crippling anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and I was recently diagnosed as having Dyscalculia...not a mental disorder, but still).
I totally understand how hopeless it is that you want to do something, but those disorders just prevent you from doing some of those things no matter how hard you try to work towards being able to cope with the disorders. I'm not sure what your chances are for being able to adopt. I imagine both of us might have a slim chance simply for the financial thing going on. SSI doesn't really give much, certainly enough for an individual to live on. But not enough for a family :-(
I have considered adoption. I was adopted, and if I were to ever have a child, I would definitely adopt. Unfortunately, I have some real serious mental issues that prevent me from being able to give a good home to ANY kid, whether it was biologically "mine" or not. I have the same criteria as you, actually! I don't feel it's "wrong" to adopt a baby or infant. Heck, my adoptive parents knew they were getting me before I was even born lol. I feel sorry for them. XD But anyway, I SO agree with you about the fact that kids over that "cute baby" age definitely deserve to be adopted! It kind of saddens me, that people only want a "baby", and will ignore the kids who have been in the system for years. Like they want a kitten, but then get tired when the kitten turns into a cat and loses it's "cute" factor (though, BTW, I personally think cats are just as cute lol). If I did get to adopt, I would pick a child around the age of 7 or 8. You'd get the best of both worlds. You'd get to skip the crying baby and poopy diaper age, but you still have time to play games and experience the innocent fun of childhood. :-) Preferably a girl, so that I could play ponies with her lol. Though I admit I'd be afraid that while the young daughter might be fun to bond with, the teenage girl would be terrifying to deal with. :-P
IIN that I believe that Abortion is more humane than giving babies up
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Oh, I completely understand you, and I agree that it needs to be easier for those who DO want to adopt to actually get to do it. It's so sad when adoptions don't come through for people who have been working so hard and giving so much of their heart and soul to try to give a child a good home. The system really does need to change. And it's really sad, but it's true what you say about people wanting babies instead of children.
In my own opinion, I feel that two things need to happen. One, is of course, changing things to it's easier for the right people to get children. And I also feel it's important to take away that negative stigma that adoption holds for a lot of people. So many people feel adoption is a bad thing, or that those kids don't mean as much as a child who would have happened to be born and raised by their birth parents. The stigma really needs to change, IMO.
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Yes, it's very sad. I agree with you. Why don't they get people to fix the Adoption process so people wanting to adopt can? Why can't people be more open to kids past infancy/toddlerhood? Why must people be so shallow when it comes to that? Kids past the age of 3 need to be adopted too. Don't those people know that, or do they just not care? And why can't Adoption be viewed as a great thing? It could probably even be viewed better than having birthchildren. I'm sorry i'm asking so many questions. Personally, if I were to adopt, i would adopt a older child that's 7 to 12 years of age or a 2-kid sibling group in my age perference above. I believe it's wrong to adopt otherwise. What about you? Would you adopt? And if you did, how old would the child or sibling group be? What's your perference i mean.
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Thank you. I'm glad you like it. I'm really sorry about your issues. If i must be honest with you, so do i. I have Asperger's, I'm on SSI, and i'll never be able to work fulltime because of my lack of social skills and my SSI forbiding it pretty much. I mean, i'd like to adopt very much but when i'm honest with myself, it just seems so hopeless because of how slim a chance i'd have of succeeding. What do you think? Do you think i'd have any chance of adopting?
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Aw man, it's kind of weird how much we have in common. I also have Asperger's and am on SSI (not for that, but I also have bipolar disorder, crippling anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and I was recently diagnosed as having Dyscalculia...not a mental disorder, but still).
I totally understand how hopeless it is that you want to do something, but those disorders just prevent you from doing some of those things no matter how hard you try to work towards being able to cope with the disorders. I'm not sure what your chances are for being able to adopt. I imagine both of us might have a slim chance simply for the financial thing going on. SSI doesn't really give much, certainly enough for an individual to live on. But not enough for a family :-(
I have considered adoption. I was adopted, and if I were to ever have a child, I would definitely adopt. Unfortunately, I have some real serious mental issues that prevent me from being able to give a good home to ANY kid, whether it was biologically "mine" or not. I have the same criteria as you, actually! I don't feel it's "wrong" to adopt a baby or infant. Heck, my adoptive parents knew they were getting me before I was even born lol. I feel sorry for them. XD But anyway, I SO agree with you about the fact that kids over that "cute baby" age definitely deserve to be adopted! It kind of saddens me, that people only want a "baby", and will ignore the kids who have been in the system for years. Like they want a kitten, but then get tired when the kitten turns into a cat and loses it's "cute" factor (though, BTW, I personally think cats are just as cute lol). If I did get to adopt, I would pick a child around the age of 7 or 8. You'd get the best of both worlds. You'd get to skip the crying baby and poopy diaper age, but you still have time to play games and experience the innocent fun of childhood. :-) Preferably a girl, so that I could play ponies with her lol. Though I admit I'd be afraid that while the young daughter might be fun to bond with, the teenage girl would be terrifying to deal with. :-P