It's not shallow to prefer your partner to look a certain way, it's shallow if the only reason you're with them is for their looks.
I'll be honest OP, I have no idea if you're a troll or not. I'll respond though as if you're serious. I think you're really wrong in your way of thinking. Personality matters sure, but looks do as well. In your first sentence you mention the shallowness of people. Now that part I agree with, if all you care about is looks then alright you are shallow in my book. However, the further I read your post the more I disagree with you. You talk about beauty like a sin, as if physical attraction shouldn't even exist. You blatantly mention "Beauty comes from within: it's not about (and shouldn't be) about looks." I disagree entirely with this sentence. Inner beauty is great, but outer beauty matters to. If you can't see yourself being intimate with the person, then it's just going to be a chore being with them. Friendship doesn't require looks, so that's where personality works best. But for relationships, looks matter. Now another part that I disagree with is the next sentence, where you flat out say physical attraction does not matter. You seem to hold some kind of vendetta against people who want an attractive partner. You seem to think that all anybody is after is looks, when in actuality that's not true. People want someone who they find attractive on some level and who they can get along with. The final stab you give is in that one phrase "looks shouldn't EVER matter." This right here pretty much sums up your entire post, you want everyone to just forgo their preferences and pretend that looks don't matter. Looks should matter, because we all want someone who's beautiful, whatever that means to you. Ultimately your post conveys bitterness; you simply seem to believe that everyone is shallow.
Also, if you have a preference for how you want your partner to look, that's not shallow. We all have preferences.
Lastly, you sound very young. I've heard this creed before, or something like it, but it's always been from pre-teen girls. The fact that you end this by saying that you don't care to be in a relationships sounds wrong in my opinion. Because with this creed I imagine that you would pretty much be having constant flings with people. I mean really what's stopping you? Looks? You just said that they don't matter! If a good personality is all you need well then I imagine that you must have a supercharged sex life and hey kudos. But since you don't, you just contradict yourself. From the sound of it, you wrote an entire rant to surmise why you're so alone. To persuade yourself that people are the problem, and in no way are you to take any blame for your unattractive personality.
Is it normal that I believe people who value looks more are shallow?
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It's not shallow to prefer your partner to look a certain way, it's shallow if the only reason you're with them is for their looks.
I'll be honest OP, I have no idea if you're a troll or not. I'll respond though as if you're serious. I think you're really wrong in your way of thinking. Personality matters sure, but looks do as well. In your first sentence you mention the shallowness of people. Now that part I agree with, if all you care about is looks then alright you are shallow in my book. However, the further I read your post the more I disagree with you. You talk about beauty like a sin, as if physical attraction shouldn't even exist. You blatantly mention "Beauty comes from within: it's not about (and shouldn't be) about looks." I disagree entirely with this sentence. Inner beauty is great, but outer beauty matters to. If you can't see yourself being intimate with the person, then it's just going to be a chore being with them. Friendship doesn't require looks, so that's where personality works best. But for relationships, looks matter. Now another part that I disagree with is the next sentence, where you flat out say physical attraction does not matter. You seem to hold some kind of vendetta against people who want an attractive partner. You seem to think that all anybody is after is looks, when in actuality that's not true. People want someone who they find attractive on some level and who they can get along with. The final stab you give is in that one phrase "looks shouldn't EVER matter." This right here pretty much sums up your entire post, you want everyone to just forgo their preferences and pretend that looks don't matter. Looks should matter, because we all want someone who's beautiful, whatever that means to you. Ultimately your post conveys bitterness; you simply seem to believe that everyone is shallow.
Also, if you have a preference for how you want your partner to look, that's not shallow. We all have preferences.
Lastly, you sound very young. I've heard this creed before, or something like it, but it's always been from pre-teen girls. The fact that you end this by saying that you don't care to be in a relationships sounds wrong in my opinion. Because with this creed I imagine that you would pretty much be having constant flings with people. I mean really what's stopping you? Looks? You just said that they don't matter! If a good personality is all you need well then I imagine that you must have a supercharged sex life and hey kudos. But since you don't, you just contradict yourself. From the sound of it, you wrote an entire rant to surmise why you're so alone. To persuade yourself that people are the problem, and in no way are you to take any blame for your unattractive personality.