Hey my friend, relax, take a deep breath and please do not let her upset you or influence you in any way. You are yourself, and to me you sound pretty cool. She is not a "REAL MOTHER" if she does not love her daughters equally for what God has made the to be.
Would like to state, your life sounds alot like my past. I was horrible at schooling, could not grasp onto hardly anything. My mother always riducled and downgraded me every which way but up. My brother was a 4.0 student, graduated Validictorian. My old bitch would hit me with the "Razor Strap" everytime I did not live up to "HER EXPECTATIONS". So, at 13.5 I packed my luggage cases, moved in with my Uncle for awhile until I established in life, got False ID for 18 got a job working Line for Chrysler Windsor. And until this day, I am now 58 me and my mother have never spoken.
So honey, please, pull back the reigns, and do not let people pull your chains and tell you what to do. Do what you feel is the right things to do. You know yourself the best, we all are good at different things. So don't be so hard on yourself cuz of her. I say trash her and get your own life going.
You stated you were good at Art, that takes a pretty special talent to do that, I say pursue your artistic talents and have fun.
Cheer up please, life is too cool and short to have people bulldozer you down. You are you and that is way God made you and I know for a "TRUE FACT THAT GOD DON'T MAKE JUNK!" :D
Hello Friend:<BR><BR>Just stating how I feel and have felt. And please forgive me for the wrong gender guessings I truly am sorry. Get your life going as God wants it not her. :D
Know how it feels to be called the wrong gender several people have called me boy and I am girl.
Let me know how things go with your down the road please.
Hello Joybird:<BR><BR>Temporarily I missed your question, and no I did not choose to ignore it. The truth is that my Internet System went Ka-Put for several days and had to get in up and running again. Had to rebuild my hard-drive then reinstall the whole "Kit and Kaboodle" myself and it took me 3-4 days because I was nervous about doing it. I am really sorry about everything and please accept my sincere apologies.
Also in response to your question, the best I can answer it is this. When I had the falling out with my mother it was before I became saved. After I was saved I tried several times over the years to try and reconcile things with her and she kept on not wanting to work things out. So now I am once again leaning on God to have Him lay it on her heart and except Him and then try making amends with each other. Best I can explain the situation. Do not know if this is anything good to you or not, hope so. :D
Sorry about your computer :o( and I hope you don't think I was attacking you - I just thought you'd genuinely either missed it or didn't want to answer.
I have similar problems with a horrible rotten mother and over the years I have tried my best to be charitable and listen to her toxic hatred of the world for hour after hour on the phone. None of my other siblings will give her the time of day. However, it's like water on a stone and has worn me down over the years, actually making me hate her and the very mention of her name.
People have actually noticed my own bitterness when they start to talk about her. I don't like this quality in myself as she's poisoning me. However, I am not saved but do try to live by Christian values.
Sorry to hear about the rotten relationship you also had with your mother. Sounds pretty close to mine. Please whatsoever do not think of me being pushy but why don't you try and talk with God, He would give you the guidance that you need, it would be good idea in my opinion, please like I stated I am not trying to shove anything down your throat that you do not want, but just giving a suggestion, it is Salvation that is helping with my mother troubles. :D
Is it normal that I am unable to love my mother?
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Hey my friend, relax, take a deep breath and please do not let her upset you or influence you in any way. You are yourself, and to me you sound pretty cool. She is not a "REAL MOTHER" if she does not love her daughters equally for what God has made the to be.
Would like to state, your life sounds alot like my past. I was horrible at schooling, could not grasp onto hardly anything. My mother always riducled and downgraded me every which way but up. My brother was a 4.0 student, graduated Validictorian. My old bitch would hit me with the "Razor Strap" everytime I did not live up to "HER EXPECTATIONS". So, at 13.5 I packed my luggage cases, moved in with my Uncle for awhile until I established in life, got False ID for 18 got a job working Line for Chrysler Windsor. And until this day, I am now 58 me and my mother have never spoken.
So honey, please, pull back the reigns, and do not let people pull your chains and tell you what to do. Do what you feel is the right things to do. You know yourself the best, we all are good at different things. So don't be so hard on yourself cuz of her. I say trash her and get your own life going.
You stated you were good at Art, that takes a pretty special talent to do that, I say pursue your artistic talents and have fun.
Cheer up please, life is too cool and short to have people bulldozer you down. You are you and that is way God made you and I know for a "TRUE FACT THAT GOD DON'T MAKE JUNK!" :D
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Hello Friend:<BR><BR>Just stating how I feel and have felt. And please forgive me for the wrong gender guessings I truly am sorry. Get your life going as God wants it not her. :D
Know how it feels to be called the wrong gender several people have called me boy and I am girl.
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Hello Joybird:<BR><BR>Temporarily I missed your question, and no I did not choose to ignore it. The truth is that my Internet System went Ka-Put for several days and had to get in up and running again. Had to rebuild my hard-drive then reinstall the whole "Kit and Kaboodle" myself and it took me 3-4 days because I was nervous about doing it. I am really sorry about everything and please accept my sincere apologies.
Also in response to your question, the best I can answer it is this. When I had the falling out with my mother it was before I became saved. After I was saved I tried several times over the years to try and reconcile things with her and she kept on not wanting to work things out. So now I am once again leaning on God to have Him lay it on her heart and except Him and then try making amends with each other. Best I can explain the situation. Do not know if this is anything good to you or not, hope so. :D
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Sorry about your computer :o( and I hope you don't think I was attacking you - I just thought you'd genuinely either missed it or didn't want to answer.
I have similar problems with a horrible rotten mother and over the years I have tried my best to be charitable and listen to her toxic hatred of the world for hour after hour on the phone. None of my other siblings will give her the time of day. However, it's like water on a stone and has worn me down over the years, actually making me hate her and the very mention of her name.
People have actually noticed my own bitterness when they start to talk about her. I don't like this quality in myself as she's poisoning me. However, I am not saved but do try to live by Christian values.
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Hello:
Sorry to hear about the rotten relationship you also had with your mother. Sounds pretty close to mine. Please whatsoever do not think of me being pushy but why don't you try and talk with God, He would give you the guidance that you need, it would be good idea in my opinion, please like I stated I am not trying to shove anything down your throat that you do not want, but just giving a suggestion, it is Salvation that is helping with my mother troubles. :D
Please take care, my friend.
IF you'd like there's an update on the situation in the form of a reply to Joybird's comment above.
Do you mind if I ask you how you reconcile your Christian beliefs with your feelings towards your mother? Based on the commandment?
I only ask coz I'm forever being lectured by Christians - I'm not being facetious or nasty.
Thank you