Of course she is but you can relax now - you have a sister she can concentrate on. With any luck you're out of there and don't need to keep in contact with her.
In all honesty, she sounds as though she's embittered with her own life and has no regard for who she hurts. Let her stew in her own juice and live out her rotten life as best she can. One thing's for sure - she's going to end up very lonely.
I also have a rotten mother like this but I lost all respect for her when I was 13 yo. She half killed me one day I came home from school coz my 2 yo brother had fallen down the stairs!! It was my fault coz I wasn't there to look after him?! That was the day I realised she was nuts!!
Unless we were completely silent she beat us with a leather belt or even the dog's metal choke chain. I was a child who always tried to be good but no matter how hard I worked, she told me every day that I was, "nothing only shite!" I got out of there when I turned 18!
Funnily enough my dad told me I was lucky to get out coz I was the one she had chosen to live out my life with her, and look after her in her old age. Eek!! I'd smother her in her sleep ;o)
Anyhow, my dad's dead now and she is on her own. None of my 4 siblings want anything to do with her now either. We all have our own families but she has done untold damage to everyone of us and our self-esteem which is why I don't ask for her opinion on anything and never call her!
To be compassionate you could try to convince yourself that she doesn't know any better - either coz she's stupid or just deeply rotten. Either way, maybe deep down you love her but you don't have to like her! Build your own life without her rotten contributions!
You're right. Deep down i do love my mum. We had a heart to heart which really patched up a lot of things because she isn't on for a DnM so this was very rare. So things are looking ok right now. So I guess I do love her but that same way I love my Dad.
Is it normal that I am unable to love my mother?
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She's an aged care nurse and I feel like she's trying to live her dreams and aspirations through me.
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Of course she is but you can relax now - you have a sister she can concentrate on. With any luck you're out of there and don't need to keep in contact with her.
In all honesty, she sounds as though she's embittered with her own life and has no regard for who she hurts. Let her stew in her own juice and live out her rotten life as best she can. One thing's for sure - she's going to end up very lonely.
I also have a rotten mother like this but I lost all respect for her when I was 13 yo. She half killed me one day I came home from school coz my 2 yo brother had fallen down the stairs!! It was my fault coz I wasn't there to look after him?! That was the day I realised she was nuts!!
Unless we were completely silent she beat us with a leather belt or even the dog's metal choke chain. I was a child who always tried to be good but no matter how hard I worked, she told me every day that I was, "nothing only shite!" I got out of there when I turned 18!
Funnily enough my dad told me I was lucky to get out coz I was the one she had chosen to live out my life with her, and look after her in her old age. Eek!! I'd smother her in her sleep ;o)
Anyhow, my dad's dead now and she is on her own. None of my 4 siblings want anything to do with her now either. We all have our own families but she has done untold damage to everyone of us and our self-esteem which is why I don't ask for her opinion on anything and never call her!
To be compassionate you could try to convince yourself that she doesn't know any better - either coz she's stupid or just deeply rotten. Either way, maybe deep down you love her but you don't have to like her! Build your own life without her rotten contributions!
Good luck!
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You're right. Deep down i do love my mum. We had a heart to heart which really patched up a lot of things because she isn't on for a DnM so this was very rare. So things are looking ok right now. So I guess I do love her but that same way I love my Dad.