Is it normal that i am transgender and gay?

(I`m sorry for the long read, but I would really appreciate it if you did give my question a browse <3)

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I`m not too sure how being a transgender affects your sexuality, but I am Female To Male transgender, and I only feel attracted to boys - sexually and non sexually.

I haven`t come out yet to anyone I know, so no one knows about my situation or struggle. But I do go out as a boy, in boys clothes, and people do recognize me as a boy.

I always assumed that being a boy would make me like girls, and researching on the internet I`ve seen that most transgender guys end up with a woman.

I know I am transgender, I have known since I was 11.
(which is 8 years now going on 9).
It isn`t JUST sexually motivated, it is my entire life. I see myself as a male, and act as such when I can. But imagining myself in sexual situations, I only see myself with another man. But not just sex, holding hands, kissing and cuddling too. In a real relationship.

When I think of myself with a woman, nothing happens. I read a lot of gay love stories, erotica and love, and I find myself pining for a man for myself as well. To love me for the boy I am. Nothing about being in a relationship with a woman attracts me at all.

I get crushes on my male friends, and also flirt with boys, but do not feel anything for girls, and am only friendly to them. I am already their `gay friend` really, since none of the women I know flirt with me and treat me as just a friend. I am not interested in girls and girls are not interested in me.

Being a male at heart, and in my mind, I just guessed that I would be attracted to women. But I am gay. I don`t know if this is deviant or not.

Is it normal to be transgender and gay?
Thank you for reading. <3

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  • Yeah, it's normal. I'm a transguy too, and while I may not be gay (I'm pansexual), but I do know a few people who are gay and trans.
    The way I see it, Your gender identity is one thing. Your sexuality is a whole different thing. So one, really doesn't affect the other in my view.

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  • Anyone can be gay, but the dressing as a girl is just another fetish you have. Its just convenient that you are gay and like dressing as a girl too.

    Most gay guys like guys not women, so since you like dressing as a girl you may also have trouble finding a gay guy that likes you dressed.

    You need to seek out other transgender MtF guys cause they are into guys dressed as girls too.

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  • It's totally normal, take it from a fellow trans gay himself.

    When I changed from a girl to a guy, I wanted to keep liking guys because WHY NOT?!

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  • this literally sums up my entire sexuality, I am actually kind of shocked at how this is EXACTLY how I feel. I think it's normal...hell, it is normal. But yeah...I get it.

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  • Of course its normal your parents where gay that is how you are here today go be gay and have lots of butt sechs

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  • be what you want to be, don't use drugs etc to hide away from what you are, thats worse than anything

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  • Completely normal, I'm a transgender male myself (ftm). Just do what works for you and ignore what other people think of you :) Good luck.

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  • It's normal:) Be yourself and love who you want.

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  • yeah, i don't think your self image has anything to do with your orientation. You could be a zerg and be attracted to chickens. (ok, i know my example is retarded, but you got the point.)

    Good luck, it's normal!

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  • Totally my ex, who was a girl when we were together became a guy and still likes guys.

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