Sweetie, this bullshit ain't love it's codependence. You said, "He is my everything and we can't be apart for more than a few hours before we start missing each other." No offense but that doesn't sound like love, it sounds like pathetic desperation! So let me get this straight, a person who sends texts of his unit to other girls is your everything? So he's more important than God, your friends and family, your hobbies and interests(if you have any), your education, your future? When you break up with him for sexting other girls and then take him back you are sending a message to him that it's okay. Every time you take him back for this punk ass shit and every time you fail to leave him when he's disrespectful you are chipping away at yourself; at your self esteem. I know five years is a long time but this doesn't sound like love it sounds like you're afraid of being alone and that's very sad. Put on your big girl pants, break up with him already and let the chips fall where they may. Cut off all contact with him and focus on yourself; your education, your future. My God do you hear the crap you're saying, "I know he doesn't want any of these girls. Its like a guy having a one night fling, but with sexting." So is it okay for people to cheat on each other all willy nilly? Cause that's what those words infer. No wonder you don't show him affection or compliment him when he acts like this. Stop trying to fix it and make it work. Stop being afraid and desperate. Just cut him loose like a fart in the wind.
Just out of curiosity what kind of relationship do your parents have? Did your father lie and cheat on your mother? Is your mother cold and distant toward him? Maybe you should see a therapist to help you through this and help you understand why you feel the need to put up with these unhealthy patterns? Understand you are powerless over his thoughts and actions and whether or not he is sexting other girls. You're not responsible for his actions. Leave him be and move on with your life. You're too young to be throwing your life away like this. I wish you all the best!
Also check out CoDA which stands for Codependents anonymous <a href="http://www.coda.org/" rel="nofollow" class="ui-link">http://www.coda.org/</a>
Is it normal that I am still with my boyfriend after this?
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Sweetie, this bullshit ain't love it's codependence. You said, "He is my everything and we can't be apart for more than a few hours before we start missing each other." No offense but that doesn't sound like love, it sounds like pathetic desperation! So let me get this straight, a person who sends texts of his unit to other girls is your everything? So he's more important than God, your friends and family, your hobbies and interests(if you have any), your education, your future? When you break up with him for sexting other girls and then take him back you are sending a message to him that it's okay. Every time you take him back for this punk ass shit and every time you fail to leave him when he's disrespectful you are chipping away at yourself; at your self esteem. I know five years is a long time but this doesn't sound like love it sounds like you're afraid of being alone and that's very sad. Put on your big girl pants, break up with him already and let the chips fall where they may. Cut off all contact with him and focus on yourself; your education, your future. My God do you hear the crap you're saying, "I know he doesn't want any of these girls. Its like a guy having a one night fling, but with sexting." So is it okay for people to cheat on each other all willy nilly? Cause that's what those words infer. No wonder you don't show him affection or compliment him when he acts like this. Stop trying to fix it and make it work. Stop being afraid and desperate. Just cut him loose like a fart in the wind.
Just out of curiosity what kind of relationship do your parents have? Did your father lie and cheat on your mother? Is your mother cold and distant toward him? Maybe you should see a therapist to help you through this and help you understand why you feel the need to put up with these unhealthy patterns? Understand you are powerless over his thoughts and actions and whether or not he is sexting other girls. You're not responsible for his actions. Leave him be and move on with your life. You're too young to be throwing your life away like this. I wish you all the best!
Also check out CoDA which stands for Codependents anonymous <a href="http://www.coda.org/" rel="nofollow" class="ui-link">http://www.coda.org/</a>