Is it normal that i am others' diary?

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For all my life, I have always been considered a listener instead or a talker. Every single friend I have, for some odd reason, feels like they can tell me anything. They tell me their deepest, darkest secrets and I, of course, never tell a soul. However, most of the time, I could really care less about their life. I mean, I've got my own problems to deal with.

Now, believe me, I have things that I wish I could talk to someone about, but I kind of feel like: why should I burden people with my own problems when they're already dealing with problems of their own? It's not like they even care. But, anytime they ask me about myself, I divert the conversation away from me because I don't want them to know me too well because I don't trust people easily.

So, is it normal to always be a listener, wanting to talk to someone but being scared to, and not having trust for any of my closest friends? Does anyone else feel this way?

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Glad you are a listener but I would like you to talk to me.
    I have a place for you.

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  • jakeomaniac
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal. I don't know how many others feel that way, but I think it's normal. I never want anybody knowing my secrets. Too many friends have been lost that way, who then go and tell to the rest of the world. The way I see it, you are perfectly normal, and your secrets should stay your own, and not somebody's blackmail tool.

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  • magicsupermilk
    12 years ago

    Same thing happens with me. I don't exactly want power over my friends, but I don't trust them with power over me. I think I pry into other people's secrets sometimes, and I'm good at being receptive to them, but I would not tell other people mine. At least, not all of them. Is there something you don't want your friends to know specifically, or do you just not want to feel vulnerable in a general sense?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel cause I'm the same
    People seem to just think ill listen constantly, I know just about everything about my friends but they know so little about me because I'm so untrusting.

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  • ImMe
    12 years ago

    I HATE the thoughts of others knowing my deep dark secrets like I know about so many of my friends ... so I know where your coming from... as far normal idk if we are or not... but hell people thought Galileo was crazy to say the earth was round and that the sun didnt revolve around the earth... so whoes to what normal is??

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  • theinsecurekiwi
    12 years ago

    I'm the same way.The shit i've heard about some pleople...

    Except I just as willingly tell them about my problems because I have some seriosu cognitive issues and insecurities in my brain.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    What a gift you have! To be there for others, that makes you a very special person

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    • KindUhLame
      12 years ago

      Thanks, I never thought of it that way.

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