Is it normal that i am only attracted to gay men or masculine girls?

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I've always been a bit obsessed with gay men, as a girl I always have known that's completely normal, two men are hot. However I've never liked the idea of me and a man, if I am attracted to a boy then I'll fantasize about them being with another boy, never with me. The other twist is that I'm ridiculously attracted to really masculine/ androgynous women. I'd never realized before but the other month I saw this really masculine lesbian on millionaire matchmaker and I was sucked in and I started discovering other masculine women and honestly it was such a relief to finally find what I was truly attracted to. So I'm a lesbian... I think. But surely me liking the idea of two men makes me very straight? So am I bi? But I'm not attracted to men in relation to myself, so I can't really be bi? Is there anyone else out there like me?

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  • keru
    7 years ago

    I have this masculine female friend and there's this gay acting guy and I ship them both so hard! They are like best friends and they look so cute together!

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  • diaperwolf21
    11 years ago

    You like the extremes on men and women. gay guys, and muscly women. lol

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  • MilleBornes
    11 years ago

    I believe you're normally confused lol

    I don't understand the attraction to masculine females. Because they're masculine as relation to men. You like tits and vagina on a man's body? Do you hate penises? If so, I'm sure you do this, how is a dildo different? Have you tried transvestites or whatever the word for women-men?

    I KINDA understand gay and les. its all the way. Some bi are confusing. I understand that bi likes both, but when you choose one over the other and the reason is backwards (i e. feminine men or masculine females) it's confusing. Why not just get a feminine woman, manly man, or....tranny, tits and dick, or just a three way relationship?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I really have no idea. All i know is that masculine women are hot and looking at a masculine women and imagining her as a man is a complete turn off.

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      • Anonymous94
        11 years ago

        Okay, it annoys the living shit out of me when people say this^

        "If you like masculine women, why not just date a guy?!"

        Because it is not the same...
        DUH
        If she wanted to be with a guy SHE WOULD,
        But she doesn't, she's attracted to masculine women.

        For petes sake ppl..it's 2013,
        If you haven't realized by now that sexual desire is much more than male OR female, and all that comes with masculinity and femininity,
        Then you are straight up dumb!

        Like whatever feels comfortable and exciting to YOU. That's what sexual PREFERENCE is!

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      • MilleBornes
        11 years ago

        hmmm. Have you tried NOT imagining a woman as a male, but simply looking at a clean cut, fit, masculine man? Or a beautiful long haired, smart, down to earth feminine woman? See, where I'm from there are a lot of whores, dirty men and women, so when a female says, "Fuck men! I want pussy" lol , it's because they 1. already want the women anyway but also there's not many of us good men to give her an alternative.

        I'm not downing any decisions, I'm simply more curious. Most women and men that I know.KNOW what it is they like and have the confidence to go for it, fuck everyone else. I'm trying to see exactly what it is that turns you on or off. Some women or men wouldn't look well as the other gender. So simply find what attracts you in each gender. Try looking at it outside of the sexual thoughts. also analize lol, your sexual thoughts....do you prefer breast over broad chest, vagina over penis, hairy over sleek, the difference of how the emotions are displayed.

        I feel that if you break it down then you'll get your answer. I dated a woman who loved women, but preferred men. We talked about how our relationship would always include another. She was dominant over the woman, but submissive under me. Maybe you just need a middle ground. Date both women AND men, see if you can then choose afterwards Be upfront, though. Try dating another bisexual though, my advice, because apparently lesbians and gays think that bisexuality isn't real or something. As told by my ex. Oh, our relationship was great, but even with the freedom we had, she was still in love with another guy and I wasn't ready to settle again after a bad breakup, but we are the coolest friends...."friends" too.

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    • Slangword
      11 years ago

      I'm a bisexual male that considers myself to be an even 50/50 split sexual orientation wise. As far as my exact preferences are concerned, I'm into masculine men, but not at all interested in effeminate men. With women... Well let's just say I'm not as picky. The majority of people who upon learning that I'm bi are (initially) genuinely surprised. Apparently I could fool most into thinking I'm straight as an arrow (if I wanted to), which is interesting since the pleasure I derive from being with a man is from imagining that I'm a women during sex. When I'm with a women the attraction is more physical as opposed to mental. Confusing? I would imagine so for someone on the outside looking in, but for me personally, I've never been more sure of myself (and my desires). To paraphrase, 'Being bisexual is not being gay, but its also not not being gay at the same time. Its being aware.' I wish I could remember the exact quote and who the author is, but its slipping my mind at the moment.

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      • MilleBornes
        11 years ago

        I think that was a great explanations

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        • Slangword
          11 years ago

          Thanks, I'm glad I could clarify for you.

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  • 12345678oct
    11 years ago

    I have friends who are a lesbian couple. They've told me before that they get aroused from gay men, if that makes you feel any better; while they don't want anything sexually from them, the idea of two men together is so "taboo" it turns them on. You are in no way weird for this. If you are still curious about you sexuality, that doesn't make you abnormal either. I hope you're able to figure it out for yourself! :)

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  • GreyWulfen
    11 years ago

    Well, you are clearly bisexual, as you are somewhat into both genders. You fantasize about men, even if you wouldn't want to have intercourse with them. This is completely normal.

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