Is it normal that i am only aroused by women giving head?

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Ok so even when I first started going through puberty and watching porn I was only turned on by the blowjob scenes. I'm not in any gay denial thing I'm only turned on by extremely beautiful women sucking cock. It often reflects my personal life because I'm only interested in getting head. Whenever its time to have sex, I can't keep an erection. I had one gf which I had sex with all the time, but she almost always had to give me head first. Since her I haven't been able to have sex for more than a minute or two. I also have low self esteem with my penis so I'm thinking its just anxiety. All I know is even when I watch porn, it almost always has to be scenes of women sucking cock. Always women like I love them I just can't find it anywhere on google or bing helping me figure this out. And its really starting to make me fucking hate myself because I just simply don't feel normal.

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    Find yourself a woman who only gets off by receiving oral :) you can be happy together forever lol

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    • Naamah
      11 years ago

      If a woman only gets off by receiving oral, it doesn't imply that she also likes giving it...

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      • quentari
        11 years ago

        true, but for all we know the OP doesn't like giving it either. They can both learn to compromise :)

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        • Naamah
          11 years ago

          How do you know he doesn't like giving it? I can't see where or when he mentioned it...

          Of course, if partners are able to compromise even if they don't like the same, it's great :) However, if it was that easy, many relationships would be better. If one of the partners just isn't into a sexual activity, they may do something about it. However, the problem is when one of them doesn't like it to the point of having an aversion to it :( Hopefully, this won't be the OP's case.

          Moreover, there are quite many women who expect their boyfriend/husband to take care of everything when it comes to sex. If such women only get off by receiving oral, it means that their partners are expected to give them oral and then take care of their own orgasm... In such case the guy gives head to his girlfriend/wife and then he is left to do something to make himself orgasm as well. Not very good approach to sex :(

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          • quentari
            11 years ago

            I did say "for all we know", because he didn't mention either way lol :)

            And I agree, I can only orgasm through oral (or if we bring heavy-duty vibrators into sex) But I try to remember to help my fiance along too :) usually giving him some head and then being active (a.k.a not starfish-ing) during sex usually keeps him happy :) Not being willing to compromise and lack of communication is pretty much kills relationships lol

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            • Naamah
              11 years ago

              It's great that you try to make each other satisfied and it works well :) I also have a very good relationship with my boyfriend including our sex life. If only all people were that lucky.

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            • Naamah
              11 years ago

              It's great that you try to make each other satisfied and it works well :) I also have a very good relationship with my boyfriend including our sex life. If only all people were that lucky.

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  • Naamah
    11 years ago

    I think that the best solution is finding a girlfriend who is sexually compatible with you and loves giving blowjobs. Don't hate yourself for your sexual preference - at least you like something very much and if your GF really likes it, she will be happy and aroused by seeing how much you enjoy it.
    My boyfriend strongly prefers handjobs and blowjobs to intercourse and in the past he felt weird because of it as well. However, since I enjoy giving BJ and HJ very much, he feels comfortable about it now. Actually, I prefer to have his orgasms that way because there are more aspects of his orgasm and ejaculation for me to enjoy in comparison with intercourse. These preferences even contribute to our great sex life and we are perfectly happy with that. That is why I think that finding a partner who is sexually compatible with you is the best way how to deal with your problem
    On the other hand, I can understand that the inability to keep an erection during intercourse troubles you and has a negative effect on your self-esteem. I think wearing a cock ring during intercourse could help you - it would help your penis stay erect because it traps the blood in the penis. Cock rings sit at the base of the penis and scroutum where they help reduce the blood flow out of the penis. It may be worth trying that. Good luck!

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  • professorjacksmith
    11 years ago

    Thanks that helped a lot idk why I feel ashamed its mainly because everyone around me, and the world as whole views sex as the go to thing and I'm always just about gettin head. Like I wanna be able to just be a normal guy and fuck on command but I can't. So in a way it makes me feel imasculated. But thanks for the help I do feel a bit better about it lol

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    you know what your problem is? PORN! By watching that specific type of porn you developed a fetish of watching women give head, and therefore it's the only thing that turns you on in real life too. It's not a big of a deal. Some people get off only by worshipping feet. You're pretty normal compared to other sick fucks. Don't feel bad. Having your dick sucked can feel amazing especially if the girl knows what she's doing. Why the hell would you feel bad about it? I mean, there's a lot of women who only want to receive oral, and they don't feel bad about themselves. So if bitches don't feel guily why would you, as a man, feel bad about it.

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    • Naamah
      11 years ago

      I don't agree with you that porn is the cause of the OP's preference for blowjobs. Actually, it might be vice versa - i.e. that the OP chose and watched that kind of porn BECAUSE of his strong preference for blowjobs.
      I don't know about all people and not everybody is the same but personally, I've always chosen porn on the basis of my preferences and not vice versa. My sexual preferences haven't developed on the basis of porn and porn hasn't changed my real life preferences. Of course, I watch porn with what I like but it is because my porn choices are done on the basis of my preferences.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    As long as you don't get the urge to give head.

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