Is it normal that i am not used to happiness?

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I have been living many years of unhappiness. However, it was never about myself. People surrounding me (family, colleagues, friends) always seemed to have the worst issues and they always blamed me for them or at least force me to get caught into their dramas.

I recently moved to a new location for a project. Now I am away from my old life. And here is when I finally realized that being happy is actually a possibility. But for some reason, this new-found happiness feels unsettling if anything.

I guess that I am just not used to this. I even have feelings of guilt and regret about this. From one side, I feel so stupid for living for some many years caught in so much drama... but from the other, this doesn't feel real to me yet. I somehow feel undeserving of this in some way. Also, I am a little scared that I am going to fail at this new life and that I will be forced to return to my previous environment and be caught into all the drama again.

So, is this normal people?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago | pl

    Rejoice in your happiness! Do not feel guilt or any have other negative thoughts; you deserve this. Why? Because you are you, a person, a human being and it is the most basic right that you be happy. Do not, no matter what happens, go back to what was before. Even if you can't stay where you are now forever. Move forward, never backwards.
    From what I've read on IIN, you are one of the lucky ones. Most wallow in their misery, afraid to claw their way out. Move forward, ever forward, never backwards.

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  • dom180
    9 years ago | pl

    Easiness can take a while to get used to when difficulty has been the norm for a long time. There's no shortcut to that stage. Try and channel the threat of going back to your old environment positively, and use it as motivation to succeed where you are now. Everyone deserves at least an opportunity, all the more so if you've had a lot of shit to deal with before :)

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago | pl

    It sounds completely normal. I know just how you feel.

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  • jmac5977
    9 years ago | pl

    Yes, this is normal. I've been there. It's scary at first, but don't let anything keep you from being happy. No matter what those close to you say or do, just keep looking forward!

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago | pl

    I can relate. I sort of always expect the worst to happen, I think I've been conditioned to think that way over the years. Least I can't be surprised lol. :)

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