awww... im very sorry you feel like that. But you just said you have just had a baby, it could be that maybe you are going through postnal depression and research has shown that men also suffer it too.
Whats causing this is your lack of communication. you need to talk to him, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Dont talk to him as your fiancee, but as your best friend. Tell him that, tell him you need a friend to talk to and that you want him to listen to you. Men don't tend to make the first move, so you have too. Sit down, tell him how you feel and if he turns into a big asshole, see if you can stay with your parents for a week or so, so you can both have some pace to reflect on what you both really want, and PLEASE don't stay with each other because of your baby (i know that would be a good thing) but the baby wont grow up feeling any better if you two are constantly arguing or not talking. Its wont be a healthy environment for the baby.
Cominucation is the key, start communicating, tell him how you feel, then listen to him and what he feels, see if you two are still on the same ground are you were when you first got together. Once you have established that you ARE on the same grounds, then start doing the little things together, go for walks, take your baby and have a nice walk. Have movie night in, make some popcorn (and you can make it yourself a big bag is 1.20 and that will last you ages). Give each other massages,light some candles, and try and rspark that passion again. But remeber, this will not be done unless communication starts off.
Is it normal that I am miserable with my fiancee?
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awww... im very sorry you feel like that. But you just said you have just had a baby, it could be that maybe you are going through postnal depression and research has shown that men also suffer it too.
Whats causing this is your lack of communication. you need to talk to him, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Dont talk to him as your fiancee, but as your best friend. Tell him that, tell him you need a friend to talk to and that you want him to listen to you. Men don't tend to make the first move, so you have too. Sit down, tell him how you feel and if he turns into a big asshole, see if you can stay with your parents for a week or so, so you can both have some pace to reflect on what you both really want, and PLEASE don't stay with each other because of your baby (i know that would be a good thing) but the baby wont grow up feeling any better if you two are constantly arguing or not talking. Its wont be a healthy environment for the baby.
Cominucation is the key, start communicating, tell him how you feel, then listen to him and what he feels, see if you two are still on the same ground are you were when you first got together. Once you have established that you ARE on the same grounds, then start doing the little things together, go for walks, take your baby and have a nice walk. Have movie night in, make some popcorn (and you can make it yourself a big bag is 1.20 and that will last you ages). Give each other massages,light some candles, and try and rspark that passion again. But remeber, this will not be done unless communication starts off.
Good luck honey xx