Sorry about your breakup I know it hurts. And yup feeling the way you do is normal.
Here are some great things that help you get over this funk:
1. Time passing and your emotional wounds healing.
You said you're finally over your breakup but you're really not. I can tell because you aren't interested in other guys yet. I think you're subconsciously protecting your heart from being hurt again so you're not interested in dating. And yes that's normal.
2. Start feeling good by having more sex.
No I don't mean screwing random guys or any guys. I mean start playing with toys.
They're a safe way for you to have orgasms and feel great which will help get you out of your funk. Do it even if you don't feel like it because it's healthy to have orgasms and they feel great. The more you do it the sooner you'll realize life is great and fun and you don't need that guy to enjoy life.
3. Exercise. Seriously. Start walking and doing cardio at least 30 mins a day.
Walking releases endorphines which naturally make you feel good.
Also people that walk are generally nice and positive people. They'll help bring you out of your funkiness because they'll smile and waive at you and say 'Hi' as you pass by. If you keep walking in the same place you'll start to recognize and befriend them. Sooner or later you'll start having longer chats with them and you'll enjoy it. Maybe even get a walking partner then eventually a great friend or new boyfriend.
4. Catch up on all those projects and interests you didn't have time for when you weren't single: This is a great time to do all those things you wanted to do but couldn't because you might of been too busy.
Travel, go to the beach and layout, do more hobbies or get more involved at your work.
The last thing you want to do is turn into a hermit never going out and just staying home being antisocial. I know you might feel like that but I'm trying to help you get over this faster so you don't end up wasting years of your life or letting some awesome guy go because you were too depressed or emotionally scarred.
Btw, guys won't leave you alone because you're cute and they're horny lol.
Oh, and with regards to falling in love again :
Nobody can say for sure that you will meet a great guy and fall in love again but I can tell you if you never date anyone you certainly won't.
Hope that helps and just know that you'll make it through this and you'll date again and be really happy :)
There's a lot of great guys out there but you need to go get them when you're ready to.
i juss discovered this site today! Lol weird how i found it actually. Seems like youve been through your own thing to know first hand how to deal with these things. Every man ive dated is a jerk! Lol guess juss not the right one. Seeing your advice helps me see some of the things i couldnt about men tho an relationships in general. :)
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Sorry about your breakup I know it hurts. And yup feeling the way you do is normal.
Here are some great things that help you get over this funk:
1. Time passing and your emotional wounds healing.
You said you're finally over your breakup but you're really not. I can tell because you aren't interested in other guys yet. I think you're subconsciously protecting your heart from being hurt again so you're not interested in dating. And yes that's normal.
2. Start feeling good by having more sex.
No I don't mean screwing random guys or any guys. I mean start playing with toys.
They're a safe way for you to have orgasms and feel great which will help get you out of your funk. Do it even if you don't feel like it because it's healthy to have orgasms and they feel great. The more you do it the sooner you'll realize life is great and fun and you don't need that guy to enjoy life.
3. Exercise. Seriously. Start walking and doing cardio at least 30 mins a day.
Walking releases endorphines which naturally make you feel good.
Also people that walk are generally nice and positive people. They'll help bring you out of your funkiness because they'll smile and waive at you and say 'Hi' as you pass by. If you keep walking in the same place you'll start to recognize and befriend them. Sooner or later you'll start having longer chats with them and you'll enjoy it. Maybe even get a walking partner then eventually a great friend or new boyfriend.
4. Catch up on all those projects and interests you didn't have time for when you weren't single: This is a great time to do all those things you wanted to do but couldn't because you might of been too busy.
Travel, go to the beach and layout, do more hobbies or get more involved at your work.
The last thing you want to do is turn into a hermit never going out and just staying home being antisocial. I know you might feel like that but I'm trying to help you get over this faster so you don't end up wasting years of your life or letting some awesome guy go because you were too depressed or emotionally scarred.
Btw, guys won't leave you alone because you're cute and they're horny lol.
Oh, and with regards to falling in love again :
Nobody can say for sure that you will meet a great guy and fall in love again but I can tell you if you never date anyone you certainly won't.
Hope that helps and just know that you'll make it through this and you'll date again and be really happy :)
There's a lot of great guys out there but you need to go get them when you're ready to.
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I love your advice…on several posts now amazing :)
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Thanks so much!
I'm new here, just discovered this site a few days ago.
I love helping people and hearing positive feedback knowing I've helped someone or helped someone realize not all guys are jerks or stupid :)
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i juss discovered this site today! Lol weird how i found it actually. Seems like youve been through your own thing to know first hand how to deal with these things. Every man ive dated is a jerk! Lol guess juss not the right one. Seeing your advice helps me see some of the things i couldnt about men tho an relationships in general. :)