Is it normal that i am disgusted by my best friend's breathing noises?

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He is my best friend and roommate, but there is a problem...
He has a really fucked up nasal/throat system which causes his breathing to be always loud as though his nose is constantly clogged with boogers. I think he has constricted airways. When he chews, he keeps his mouth closed and tries to make as little noise as possible with his mouth, which only amplifies the disgusting sound of his nasal breathing.
Whenever he produces a "k" sound, it sounds like a gurgle of mucus.
It's not his fault, and I'm a horrible person for feeling this way. But no matter what I tell myself, I am filled with feelings of utter disgust and even rage just listening to him talk sometimes...hearing the disgusting way his tongue rolls around his mouth. It's as if every sound in his mouth is amplified. I get literally angry and can't seem to fight off the irrational and unjustified feelings.

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  • 12koft
    12 years ago | pl

    Yea it's normal. Just don't be mean to him. He can't help it. One of best friends speaks and he makes a gurgling sound sometimes, but you get used to it (at least I did).

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  • dappled
    12 years ago | pl

    I have a colleague like this and I spent a lot of time moaning about it to friends. In the end, I even bored myself with it. A year on, I just got used to it. And for his part, he's stopped picking his nose and eating it.

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  • ComeFlyWithMe
    12 years ago | pl

    I know what you mean. Spit and wet sounding mouth noises are some of my biggest pet peeves. I would be very annoyed as well even if I really liked the person. It's probably extra annoying for you since you spend a lot of time with this person being roommates and friends. I've never had to deal with this for an extended period of time so I'm not sure how I would handle it. I would say you could try to just get over it but that may be hard, i know for me it would be because spit is like the grossest thing ever to me. I think, as irrational and stupid as it sounds, it would ruin the friendship for me. I would feel like a horrible person but I couldn't deal with that for too long.

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