As everyone has said it's all about confidence and self-esteem. If you are not happy with how you look that's definitely normal, most people are self-concious about their image.
If you project out to girls that you are shy and have low self-esteem, that is really what makes you unattractive. Being charismatic, funny and a good listener is what girls really want in a guy. I'm sure you'll find that all the girls who only go out with the hot guys are being stupid because they are going out with airheads.
If you do want to try out tan and the sun doesn't help, you can get some lotions (such as Nivea) which give you a light tan and then fade after a while. I bought some ages ago and even though it said just for your face, I used it everywhere. You're definitely making the right decision by not going to a tanning salon!
Relationships also aren't the best thing in the world and shouldn't be seen as the solution to making you happy. You need to find out how to make yourself happy on your own terms first. I was exactly like you before (shy, blue eyes, very very pale skin and lonely) and only after did I think 'f**k it' did I actually decide to go up and talk to girls. If you don't ask then you'll never know, and you have nothing to lose by asking.
I've met over 60 people and the longest I've been with someone is 1 month so I am completely used to rejection now, being single doesn't bother me anymore and I realise it's a much lower priority than my education, job and my family. If it's gonna happen, it will be when you least expect it.
Is it normal that i am depressed because of my appearance???
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As everyone has said it's all about confidence and self-esteem. If you are not happy with how you look that's definitely normal, most people are self-concious about their image.
If you project out to girls that you are shy and have low self-esteem, that is really what makes you unattractive. Being charismatic, funny and a good listener is what girls really want in a guy. I'm sure you'll find that all the girls who only go out with the hot guys are being stupid because they are going out with airheads.
If you do want to try out tan and the sun doesn't help, you can get some lotions (such as Nivea) which give you a light tan and then fade after a while. I bought some ages ago and even though it said just for your face, I used it everywhere. You're definitely making the right decision by not going to a tanning salon!
Relationships also aren't the best thing in the world and shouldn't be seen as the solution to making you happy. You need to find out how to make yourself happy on your own terms first. I was exactly like you before (shy, blue eyes, very very pale skin and lonely) and only after did I think 'f**k it' did I actually decide to go up and talk to girls. If you don't ask then you'll never know, and you have nothing to lose by asking.
I've met over 60 people and the longest I've been with someone is 1 month so I am completely used to rejection now, being single doesn't bother me anymore and I realise it's a much lower priority than my education, job and my family. If it's gonna happen, it will be when you least expect it.