I found your issue. "I have come to terms with that it is highly unlikely that I will meet someone that I am truly passionate about and who feels the same way about me." That's a belief. Your beliefs affect your thoughts, which affect your emotions, which yes, affect things like body language and outcome you get. Because you believe that, you will think negative thoughts and thus feel bad. When you feel bad, no high quality guy is going to want to be with you. This may be happening subconsciously or you're just unaware of the relationship between beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and what you get from it. The key is to change your belief. You need to find and focus on the evidence that suggests you will find someone who you're madly in love with and who feels the same way about you. Also do things that make you feel happy. When you are feeling good, other people will gravitate towards you. You are much more likely to find an amazing guy then. I've been there. For a long time, I struggle with a faulty belief system that wasn't good for me. I always say when you change the way you think, you change your life. It's not easy especially if you keep encountering evidence to support your faulty belief. When you believe what you believe now, what happens is you'll often only focus on the things that support that belief and you may in fact overlook a guy that is totally into you and that you are into as well. Another tip. Give it a chance. Love doesn't happen overnight. Especially for girls where it takes time for their emotions to develop. Expect it to be amazing but don't pay attention to the movies and crap like that. So yes why don't you just give someone who you're moderately interested a chance. That's what I did with my ex and we ended up having an amazing relationship while it lasted. Hope this helps.
Thank you for your answer! I have thought about that, that I may have an aura of negativity around me due to my pessimitic thinking. Though it's not that I feel I don't deserve love or anything like that, I just mean, the probability of being in the right place at the right time is not high
Is it normal that I am depressed about never finding love
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I found your issue. "I have come to terms with that it is highly unlikely that I will meet someone that I am truly passionate about and who feels the same way about me." That's a belief. Your beliefs affect your thoughts, which affect your emotions, which yes, affect things like body language and outcome you get. Because you believe that, you will think negative thoughts and thus feel bad. When you feel bad, no high quality guy is going to want to be with you. This may be happening subconsciously or you're just unaware of the relationship between beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and what you get from it. The key is to change your belief. You need to find and focus on the evidence that suggests you will find someone who you're madly in love with and who feels the same way about you. Also do things that make you feel happy. When you are feeling good, other people will gravitate towards you. You are much more likely to find an amazing guy then. I've been there. For a long time, I struggle with a faulty belief system that wasn't good for me. I always say when you change the way you think, you change your life. It's not easy especially if you keep encountering evidence to support your faulty belief. When you believe what you believe now, what happens is you'll often only focus on the things that support that belief and you may in fact overlook a guy that is totally into you and that you are into as well. Another tip. Give it a chance. Love doesn't happen overnight. Especially for girls where it takes time for their emotions to develop. Expect it to be amazing but don't pay attention to the movies and crap like that. So yes why don't you just give someone who you're moderately interested a chance. That's what I did with my ex and we ended up having an amazing relationship while it lasted. Hope this helps.
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Thank you for your answer! I have thought about that, that I may have an aura of negativity around me due to my pessimitic thinking. Though it's not that I feel I don't deserve love or anything like that, I just mean, the probability of being in the right place at the right time is not high