Is it normal that i am consumed with relationship envy?

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I am at a point in my life when I am very lonely and have been for a couple of years. I havent had sex in a year nor been on a 3rd date. I am exhausted with online dating. I am on the verge of being desperate to have someone special in my life. It consumes so much of my thoughts, but with that I have also developed an over powering relationship envy of my friends and even my family. I see people in happy relationships and I get full of flaring jealousy. I've started to become nasty and alienating my happy coupled friends, which is not normal for me. If I spend any time with the couples as a 3rd or fifth wheel, I feel so pathetic that I am on the verge of tears which turns to anger and lashing out. I am so ashamed of these feelings that I can't even talk about them with my friends because I know how rediculous it is. I'm sure they can see that something is going on with me. I'm becoming bitter and cold and depressed, and even starting to try and manipulate them by trying to talk them into breaking up with their boyfriends/husbands. I know misery loves company so maybe thats why I'm acting this way. I just feel like it's not fair that I'm so lonely all the time and everyone is always with their boyfriends/husbands and all happy. When I'm with a friend they are either with their mate or talking about them. Is it normal that I am consumed with relationship envy?

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  • outsidethecurve
    13 years ago | pl

    I don't mean to sound like I'm trivialising your problem but I think you need to get a dog. They are seriously the best company ever. I have a boyfriend and a dog and I prefer the dog. No, but seriously, dog will even help you meet someone. If you get a really cute puppy and take it everywhere with you, everyone will want to come and talk with you. Go to your local off-lead dog park and you may meet someone there. If not, you'll still have a best friend to go home with.

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  • easilygreat
    13 years ago | pl

    its normal, your frustrated with your love life and jealous of the happiness of your friends. unfortunately, i experience both daily as well.

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