What you or I "believe" is irrelevant. This person is dealing with his past the way HE chooses to deal with it and HE has chosen not to talk about/discuss it. That is HIS decision, not your, my or the OP's decision, HIS decision and the OP should respect that.
Sometimes people "reinvent" themselves, as it were, and leave their past behind. Often, such people will have no family photos in their homes, high school yearbooks, or whatever, because they have chosen to leave that part of their lives in the past.
If the OP in this case keeps badgering her BF about his past and insisting he discuss it, he's going to dump her and find a girl who will respect his decision not to discuss his past.
Is it normal that I am confused about my boyfriend's traumatic past?
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What you or I "believe" is irrelevant. This person is dealing with his past the way HE chooses to deal with it and HE has chosen not to talk about/discuss it. That is HIS decision, not your, my or the OP's decision, HIS decision and the OP should respect that.
Sometimes people "reinvent" themselves, as it were, and leave their past behind. Often, such people will have no family photos in their homes, high school yearbooks, or whatever, because they have chosen to leave that part of their lives in the past.
If the OP in this case keeps badgering her BF about his past and insisting he discuss it, he's going to dump her and find a girl who will respect his decision not to discuss his past.