Personally, I think you should be honest with him. Because of course (as you also mentioned) he will/does see that you're acting weird. If you don't tell him that THIS is the reason why, he will worry, and worry, and think he did something wrong or something.
Also I think it is important not to treat him any different than you did before. He is the person he is now, not the person he was. Of course, his past was no picnic, but he came out fine, by the looks of it. I think he learned a lot from the experiences he's had now, and tries to be a better person than his parents, and his bullies. I think the thing that will work best is that you tell him what you've heard from his sister, and that that is why you have been a bit weird. Not because you don't like him because of it, but just because it is a pretty big deal to you, and you just need some time to process hearing it all.
Is it normal that I am confused about my boyfriend's traumatic past?
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Personally, I think you should be honest with him. Because of course (as you also mentioned) he will/does see that you're acting weird. If you don't tell him that THIS is the reason why, he will worry, and worry, and think he did something wrong or something.
Also I think it is important not to treat him any different than you did before. He is the person he is now, not the person he was. Of course, his past was no picnic, but he came out fine, by the looks of it. I think he learned a lot from the experiences he's had now, and tries to be a better person than his parents, and his bullies. I think the thing that will work best is that you tell him what you've heard from his sister, and that that is why you have been a bit weird. Not because you don't like him because of it, but just because it is a pretty big deal to you, and you just need some time to process hearing it all.
I hope my input helped a little,
Good luck