I can relate to his situation but I didn't have abusive parents.
I wouldn't put too much thought into it. He will probably have a hard time talking about it so don't bother him about it, but if he chooses to bring anything up you should listen to him. Those are pretty common problems too. I know people with way worse pasts than that. The best thing to do is don't judge him for his past. It is possible he could also have ptsd depending on how abusive his parents were. Schizoaffective disorder is predispositioned by genetics and may be triggered by trauma, drugs, or something nothing at all. Is he taking any meds for that? Some people need meds more than others. It is a vague diagnosis as well because there are so many possible symptoms so everyone with it is different. It sounds like he is a great guy. I think you should support him and stick with him if you really like him.
He isn't taking any meds. I didn't inquire that much on that topic, but his sister told me that he is mostly okay now, but that there is always a chance that he might get an episode again someday.
I guess that there are many people with worse pasts, but I don't think his story is something common. I don't think it happens to the majority in our enviroment at least. But what truly surprises me is how such a damaged person could end up so well. I met many people with issues before, but I was always able to tell that they weren't well inside. He truly is such a nice person, that I truly can't understand why someone would ever mistreat him. According to his sister, he was always a nice kid.
And well, I am also concerned about the fact that he is so indifferent about his past issues. I guess he got over them... but I don't think I could ever do it.
Don't worry, I will definitely stick with him. I care a lot about him and I just wanted to know if I should do something to show even more support.
Is it normal that I am confused about my boyfriend's traumatic past?
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I can relate to his situation but I didn't have abusive parents.
I wouldn't put too much thought into it. He will probably have a hard time talking about it so don't bother him about it, but if he chooses to bring anything up you should listen to him. Those are pretty common problems too. I know people with way worse pasts than that. The best thing to do is don't judge him for his past. It is possible he could also have ptsd depending on how abusive his parents were. Schizoaffective disorder is predispositioned by genetics and may be triggered by trauma, drugs, or something nothing at all. Is he taking any meds for that? Some people need meds more than others. It is a vague diagnosis as well because there are so many possible symptoms so everyone with it is different. It sounds like he is a great guy. I think you should support him and stick with him if you really like him.
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He isn't taking any meds. I didn't inquire that much on that topic, but his sister told me that he is mostly okay now, but that there is always a chance that he might get an episode again someday.
I guess that there are many people with worse pasts, but I don't think his story is something common. I don't think it happens to the majority in our enviroment at least. But what truly surprises me is how such a damaged person could end up so well. I met many people with issues before, but I was always able to tell that they weren't well inside. He truly is such a nice person, that I truly can't understand why someone would ever mistreat him. According to his sister, he was always a nice kid.
And well, I am also concerned about the fact that he is so indifferent about his past issues. I guess he got over them... but I don't think I could ever do it.
Don't worry, I will definitely stick with him. I care a lot about him and I just wanted to know if I should do something to show even more support.