Is it normal that i am anti-social but still want a relationship?

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On one hand I am really lonely and want a boyfriend so badly. On the other, whenever a guy is interested, I shut him out. Like I am anti-social and just don't like to hang out with people. But it's lonely in the long-run. In the short-run, I just hate being around people and don't want to deal with it. I feel like I am always forcing myself to hang out with people because it's bad to be anti-social. Usually, it's okay until the guy starts making moves on me. Even when I'm drunk, I hate being touchy feely with guys that I'm not crazy about. And I am rarely get crazy about guys.

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  • wellthatsucks
    11 years ago | pl

    This is completely normal, I feel the same way. And you shouldn't be forced to socialize with any guy that you don't find attractive or doesn't do anything for you, especially if you're drunk and they want to take advantage of that.
    There are a lot of guys that fancy shy girls like us and I hope your find your own soon.
    The only thing I wonder if you are just shy or if you come across like rude, because to find a boyfriend you have to keep an open mind too, it's better to be polite, smile and take off than to be rude for no reason. Good luck!

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  • Pistashios
    12 years ago | pl

    I'm the same for the most part, try online dating maybe? I tried it, it was okay, only if you talk loads before meeting though.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    im not the exact same way but im sort of am only to some people but i feel where you are comoing from

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  • Sweetz
    12 years ago | pl

    I am the exact same way

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  • atorres444
    13 years ago | pl

    I'm the same way anti-social and force myself to hang out with ppl, you're describing me to a T...In my personal experience It just takes alot to get to know and trust someone. And once you get that then you are more comfortable around them, and the soicalizing or hooking up with them isn't so awkward.

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  • A_Different_Path
    13 years ago | pl

    Yea I hate socialling. What a waste of time. Voltunteering is good because at least we are doing something practical.

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  • lucifer210
    13 years ago | pl

    Same thing as me, I'm a bit more open to others. Just lighten up a bit and spend some more time with your friends. Your situation is perfectly normal

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  • kll019
    13 years ago | pl

    I guess it's normal because I kind of have a similar problem. I'm really shy and antisocial, but I really want a boyfriend. And it's not like I like being anti-social, i just can't help being shy. And plus it affects how I act around boys. I once went on a date and rarely said anything to the boy. And after him constantly asking me questions and me just shrugging and saying I don't know, I was sure he thought that I was some kind of weirdo. On our way home from the date there was this akward silence. I guess he got tired of trying to spark up conversations. But the next day he called me. I guess some guys like shy girls. And for me I guess its a matter of feeling comfortable with the guy. Because though I am still shy, I now feel more comfortable talking to him because I know him a little better.

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