Is it normal that i am a feminist but feel otherwise sexually?

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I am a feminist. Before some idiot starts going on about hairy armpits and burning bras, a feminist is simply someone who believes that men and women should be equal in opportunity and status.
However, I get really turned on at the idea of being dominated. I like reading bdsm erotica and imagining myself as the submissive person. It doesn't make much difference in my fantasies whether the person dominating me is male or female. I get turned on all the same.
Is it normal to have conflicting political views and sexual fantasies like this?

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  • starie
    10 years ago | pl

    You don't care if someone dominates you sexually because you know it's only in the bedroom. The moment they treat you the same way (in a damonating way) in normal non sexual situations, you won't like it. (i assume)

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    • kelili
      10 years ago | pl

      This.. Fantasies are so bizarre sometimes, so not ourselves and I think that maybe it's one of the reason it arouses us sooooo much

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  • SuperBenzid
    10 years ago | pl

    Well surely your feminist beliefs would tell you that it is about giving women the choice on how they want to live their lives not forcing women to live a certain way against their wishes. Hence if you look at it in a mature way there is no conflict.

    A women could choose to be submissive even outside of the bedroom and still be a feminist, she would just be making a personal choice about how she wants to live. Unless your feminism is about forcing women to fit a mold that is different from society's but still just as rigid? Do you really want to be that kind of feminist? I hope you think about it.

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  • dexy77
    10 years ago | pl

    this is completely normal. they are two completely separate spheres.

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  • TheMightyOz
    9 years ago | pl

    I love sex positive feminists. I also approve of sex positive masculinists. And, naked flirting in coed showers.

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  • Cheese123
    9 years ago | pl

    Self-conscious much. Sex is NORMAL and HEALTHY.

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  • Cheese123
    9 years ago | pl

    Who cares? Getting someone to spank you isn't going to destroy Feminism

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  • Paris2005
    10 years ago | pl

    My dear, it is completely normal to the point of being common. It's the taboo that drives your libido into overdrive. I'm a liberal, progressive, strikingly handsome male (lol), yet I have fantasies of spanking a blonde with big round ass and tying her spread eagle on the bed. We are both normal.

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  • Vintaage
    10 years ago | pl

    I'm the complete same way.

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  • Lunamoon
    10 years ago | pl

    that has nothing to do with feminist beliefs because he would not actually be abusing you because he would be doing it for your pleasure and he would know and respect your boundaries.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago | pl

    Sure. I can't stand dirty whores (not promiscuous women, but women who get pleasure from tearing relationships apart) , yet somehow my mind tends to summon an image of one, frequently, during sex and masturbation.

    Maybe it's a way of relieving yourself of tension from the things that bother you most so that this bothersome thing becomes your "conquest".

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