To answer your title: I'm almost 22 and I just lost my virginity yesterday.
To address the rest of the post:
Have you ever had an internet presence/community to tie yourself into? I was really awkward for a long time, but I found a community of people on Runescape and Warriors role-playing forums in 7th-9th grade, and that helped me hone my communication skills and figure out what I offered to people/situations. Find something that you're passionate about or interested in, and see if you can find a community (online or otherwise) to engage you.
Be proactive. Initiate conversation with people even if you think/know that it will be awkward and you'll make a fool of yourself. You can't become less awkward unless you know what makes you awkward. And the chances are that the people you're interacting with don't think you're unbearably boring or awkward. If someone does, there's always another opportunity or person. You'll eventually find someone you connect with who cares about you, and you'll develop a friendship, maybe even a romantic relationship.
Most importantly, be patient with yourself. You're human, and you will fail and be stupid sometimes. You will accidentally ruin potential friendships, sometimes without even knowing it or knowing why. Your "boringness" will scare some people off, probably more if you keep convincing yourself that you ARE boring. Know yourself and be confident in it; that's sexy, and makes it possible for you to actually engage with people.
That was kinda rambl-y sorry. Hopefully something I said strikes a chord and/or is useful to you! Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with us.
Is it normal that I am a 22 year old male Virgin?
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To answer your title: I'm almost 22 and I just lost my virginity yesterday.
To address the rest of the post:
Have you ever had an internet presence/community to tie yourself into? I was really awkward for a long time, but I found a community of people on Runescape and Warriors role-playing forums in 7th-9th grade, and that helped me hone my communication skills and figure out what I offered to people/situations. Find something that you're passionate about or interested in, and see if you can find a community (online or otherwise) to engage you.
Be proactive. Initiate conversation with people even if you think/know that it will be awkward and you'll make a fool of yourself. You can't become less awkward unless you know what makes you awkward. And the chances are that the people you're interacting with don't think you're unbearably boring or awkward. If someone does, there's always another opportunity or person. You'll eventually find someone you connect with who cares about you, and you'll develop a friendship, maybe even a romantic relationship.
Most importantly, be patient with yourself. You're human, and you will fail and be stupid sometimes. You will accidentally ruin potential friendships, sometimes without even knowing it or knowing why. Your "boringness" will scare some people off, probably more if you keep convincing yourself that you ARE boring. Know yourself and be confident in it; that's sexy, and makes it possible for you to actually engage with people.
That was kinda rambl-y sorry. Hopefully something I said strikes a chord and/or is useful to you! Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with us.