Is it normal that i always feel embarrassed after sex?

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No matter what the circumstances, after engaging in sex or any sexual activity I always feel really embarrassed the next day. The same cringeworthy embarrassment feeling you get after a drunk night out, even if I wasn't drunk. Even if it was with someone I know really well and nothing particularly embarrassing happened, I always find myself cringing remembering all the details and feeling regretful. It has got to the point where I always end up losing contact with those I've slept with because I feel embarrassed about the idea that they've had sex with me and seen me naked and stuff.

I'm 19 and not very confident about my body or in the bedroom but that's not really the problem because it still happens even if it's dark or if i've kept my clothes on.

Does anyone else have this problem or can relate at all? Any advice in the comments would be appreciated :(

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    11 years ago

    Sex is the most natural act we have. It's the only act that has sustained since humans first began. So you shouldn't be embarrassed. EVERYONE has sex. It isn't shameful.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Aww that's silly. Don't stress.

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    Actuall I have that feeling myself.

    Like you want to be overly 'dirty' and have wild sex DURING sex, but afterwards I feel like I'd rather cover up too.

    Now I understand that this is just the now loss of intense sexual desire. But its more than that. So even I can relate.

    Maybe you also think sex is 'dirty' but in a FUN way?
    I suppose you (and I) just need to come to terms with sex is just sex; and obviously not 'dirty'.

    I'm not one of these guys that would go around afterwards and say all the sticky details to my 'mates'. Although others (guys and some girls) don't seem to mind. Never understood why.

    I think my parents brought me up to think it was all about love only, so I have mixed feelings about raunchy hot sex, that doesn't seem exactly 'loving' at times.

    I love hugs though (mainly giving) so maybe you're more of a warm and loving type of person who enjoys wild sex at the time?

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    • peakypie
      11 years ago

      You're right. Since making this post I have thought about it and realised, what one does during sex does not generally go with my every day personality, and that's why it feels embarrassing looking back at everything the next day when i'm not "in the heat of the moment".

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    Have you talked to a therapist about this? That might help. Being ashamed of having sex isn't healthy.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    That feeling will go away with time

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  • Devyn
    11 years ago

    Unfortunately we live in a society where sex is made out to be something that should be hidden away and be ashamed of. This is a lie! Sex is completely natural, your body is natural and sex is a wonderful and fun thing to do. There's not need to be embarrassed!

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Most only have these feelings with someone they are not serious about keeping

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