Is it normal that i act this way?

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Well I've been thinking lately about how I used to be back when I was little and now. I think I've improved a little bit. When I was younger I have gone through things. Not any sexual abuse but child abuse and witnessing child abuse, going to a foster home, becoming homeless, and living through shelters and it caused me to have social anxiety and shyness. I used to be scared to socialize and I was scared to talk to adults or people of authority. It was kinda bad because whenever someone would talk to me I would start crying and I always hated talking in front of the class. When I entered middle school I had little to no friends but I wasn't afraid to talk to people and I never cried. During 8th grade year I started to get to know myself which helped with my self esteem. Then when I entered high school and I just didn't care. I didn't feel like having any friends. I felt being by myself was good enough. People would talk to me and joke around with me but I never really held any kind of friendship with them. I only made one really good friend. Well anyway I just wanted to know if it's normal that I turned into a loner?

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  • 011assassin
    12 years ago

    You never fully recover from abuse, is it normal you want to stay away from people when all the only thing you thought when you were young abou other humans was is he going to hurt me? Then yes but you need phyciatric evaluation to see if you've healed. Im sorry about your past. Wish it were better.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Nobody is a loner if you have TV and alcohol.

    If you can squeeze a dog in there its like the complete family!

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  • little_grey_area
    12 years ago

    no, it's not normal or healthy. humans are social animals.

    i struggled through some pretty horrible abuse as a child too, and have always had difficulty trusting people.

    i have grown up to be a complete recluse, and my inability to create meaningful or lasting relationships has severely crippled my quality of live and ability to earn a living.

    i am 37 years old and literally do not have a friend in the world beside my partner of 18 years. i know it has been a struggle for her to deal with my antisocial tendencies.

    you're still young, i urge you to seek help. you're suffering from an injury which needs to be healed.

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    I'm sorry to read that you went through that. It is understandable that you have social anxiety, it would happen. Just keep your chin up amd things will work out great for you. Being a loner isnt so bad ;)

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