Even if you love your girlfriend but you can't like her children, it's probably not going to work out in the long fun. Her children are part of the package whether you like it or not. I can see your point of view about why you wouldn't like them if they're disrespectful to you. I am not judging you at all. It's just that I grew up with a single mother, and I watched her put my sister and me first a lot of the time. If the boyfriend wasn't happy with us (and my sister and I weren't brats, my mother actually taught us to be respectful) then it usually didn't end well. The problem I think those guys had was that my mother did put us first before them, and I think they hated it.
From the sounds of it, you've already told her your feelings and she hasn't listened. It doesn't have to be physical discipline to make them respectful. At twelve I wouldn't say it's a good idea anyway. That will just make her humiliated and angry and act out more I imagine. Although at twelve, a lot of kids feel they are grown even though they are no where close.
If you're already unhappy now with everything it's going to get worse. Eventually you are going to grow to resent your girlfriend even if you don't now. You said you don't have much of a sex life, and you don't care anymore and you dread going home. It's a hard decision you're going to have make but this is a situation where I think you need to out your needs first.
Is it normal that I absolutely hate my gfs kids?
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Even if you love your girlfriend but you can't like her children, it's probably not going to work out in the long fun. Her children are part of the package whether you like it or not. I can see your point of view about why you wouldn't like them if they're disrespectful to you. I am not judging you at all. It's just that I grew up with a single mother, and I watched her put my sister and me first a lot of the time. If the boyfriend wasn't happy with us (and my sister and I weren't brats, my mother actually taught us to be respectful) then it usually didn't end well. The problem I think those guys had was that my mother did put us first before them, and I think they hated it.
From the sounds of it, you've already told her your feelings and she hasn't listened. It doesn't have to be physical discipline to make them respectful. At twelve I wouldn't say it's a good idea anyway. That will just make her humiliated and angry and act out more I imagine. Although at twelve, a lot of kids feel they are grown even though they are no where close.
If you're already unhappy now with everything it's going to get worse. Eventually you are going to grow to resent your girlfriend even if you don't now. You said you don't have much of a sex life, and you don't care anymore and you dread going home. It's a hard decision you're going to have make but this is a situation where I think you need to out your needs first.