Believe it or not, he isn't rejecting you. What people seemingly "do" to you has nothing to do with you. It's just who they are being. On the flip side, what you feel has nothing to do with what's happening "to" you. It's just how you feel about **the way** you perceive things that are happening. Do you ever notice how the things that you don't care about effect you? They don't effect you. He isn't rejecting you. It's not personal. He is just being who he is, and who he is (for whatever reason) hurts you.
Anyway, don't try to understand. It's okay to not understand. You will never, ever, ever, truly understand anyone but yourself, because you'll never live in their body. You won't see life through their experiences. Many of us don't even understand ourselves...most of us don't. haha.
Being confused, hurt, anxious, angry (fucking anger) is okay. Dude. It's okay to feel the way you do. It's okay if you are never friends with him. You can be productive associates without a friendship.
This is becoming less about him and more about you. [I almost inserted a personal story but it was too long lol]. The moral of my would be anecdote is that: we allow people to treat us the way we treat ourselves and feel we deserve to be treated. You may THINK you don't deserve what *seems to* have happened , but in all honestly, it appears that you're trying to hold on. I don't think you FEEL that you deserve better than him. No one can explore what's going on a deeper level, in you. Only you can. I can preach so much self-help gospel but, it means nothing if it's not truly heard.
I think you should stop struggling to understand. I think you should listen to yourself. I think you should verbalize (out loud) what you wanted him to give/do/be in your life (attention, protection, listening, laughter, etc). THEN, direct that statement from yourself towards yourself. Hear yourself, and DO THOSE THINGS. I developed this technique recently, trying to get over a crush.
I guarantee that when you become less emotionally invested (less confused) you'll want to puke because of the all time wasted on this. That's a joke. Accept what's come to be because it's another story in your life that will shape and mold, so that you can *level up*.
Girl. You're currently dodging a bullet. A torpedo, even. He put his cock in something that he couldn't sustain. His son has a mother that makes bad decisions, and a father that is emotionally unavailable (if even physically available). Why are your expectations so high? YOU. ARE. TOO. YOUNG. FOR. BABY. MAMA. DRAMA. He is a little problem in your life. You'll move on from this. His life is riddled with major issues that won't go away. You are not anywhere on his priority list, in light of this new information. I would be thankful not to be on his radar. You think he's giving you shit but...imagine at all the REAL shit he gave his baby mama.
You. Pat yourself on the back and be grateful and thankful you didn't sign yourself up for eternity with him. It could have been you. It can always be you.
Oh god. I can't believe how long this is. I don't know. You'll realize soon that this is a non-problem and you have a big life in front of you.
Is it normal that he's treating me this way?
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I know that feel, bro.
Believe it or not, he isn't rejecting you. What people seemingly "do" to you has nothing to do with you. It's just who they are being. On the flip side, what you feel has nothing to do with what's happening "to" you. It's just how you feel about **the way** you perceive things that are happening. Do you ever notice how the things that you don't care about effect you? They don't effect you. He isn't rejecting you. It's not personal. He is just being who he is, and who he is (for whatever reason) hurts you.
Anyway, don't try to understand. It's okay to not understand. You will never, ever, ever, truly understand anyone but yourself, because you'll never live in their body. You won't see life through their experiences. Many of us don't even understand ourselves...most of us don't. haha.
Being confused, hurt, anxious, angry (fucking anger) is okay. Dude. It's okay to feel the way you do. It's okay if you are never friends with him. You can be productive associates without a friendship.
This is becoming less about him and more about you. [I almost inserted a personal story but it was too long lol]. The moral of my would be anecdote is that: we allow people to treat us the way we treat ourselves and feel we deserve to be treated. You may THINK you don't deserve what *seems to* have happened , but in all honestly, it appears that you're trying to hold on. I don't think you FEEL that you deserve better than him. No one can explore what's going on a deeper level, in you. Only you can. I can preach so much self-help gospel but, it means nothing if it's not truly heard.
I think you should stop struggling to understand. I think you should listen to yourself. I think you should verbalize (out loud) what you wanted him to give/do/be in your life (attention, protection, listening, laughter, etc). THEN, direct that statement from yourself towards yourself. Hear yourself, and DO THOSE THINGS. I developed this technique recently, trying to get over a crush.
I guarantee that when you become less emotionally invested (less confused) you'll want to puke because of the all time wasted on this. That's a joke. Accept what's come to be because it's another story in your life that will shape and mold, so that you can *level up*.
Girl. You're currently dodging a bullet. A torpedo, even. He put his cock in something that he couldn't sustain. His son has a mother that makes bad decisions, and a father that is emotionally unavailable (if even physically available). Why are your expectations so high? YOU. ARE. TOO. YOUNG. FOR. BABY. MAMA. DRAMA. He is a little problem in your life. You'll move on from this. His life is riddled with major issues that won't go away. You are not anywhere on his priority list, in light of this new information. I would be thankful not to be on his radar. You think he's giving you shit but...imagine at all the REAL shit he gave his baby mama.
You. Pat yourself on the back and be grateful and thankful you didn't sign yourself up for eternity with him. It could have been you. It can always be you.
Oh god. I can't believe how long this is. I don't know. You'll realize soon that this is a non-problem and you have a big life in front of you.