I was ready to tell you to get away from that horrible horrible family, when I got to "I don't want to get into it too much, but he isn't just an asshole without a cause."
Now I'm stuck and don't know what to say to you, sweetheart. I think that's not a relationship destined to work. You should find someone who can respect you and who you are. Not only that, someone who will back you up before his family. I wish you the best.
Thanks for that, and I know I should've added more on that issue. I didn't really feel like getting into it I guess, but I'll add some more.
Basically we've been living togethor for a while and we've discovered how differently we view and react to things. We have so many different opinions and he wishes I agreed with him on more things. He gets mad that I don't listen, seeming to think it means I don't trust him.
He's a high stress type who wants stuff done, whereas I'm more laid back, sometimes excessively. I'm currently unemployed and he could use the help, but I just havn't delivered. I've applied at lots of places and left resumes, but I havn't got many call backs. The interviews I have gotten I've flopped on, I think because I was too obviously nervous. Even though I have tried hard, I havn't tried hard enough. I can't just use my shyness as an excuse.
There's also the house cleaning. Although I do clean, I don't do it fast enough. I tend to wait until the last minute, which drives him insane.
All in all I can understand why he's upset. He views me someone who doesn't try hard enough, gives up too easy and just doesn't understand how to get by and interact with the world. And he's not wrong. But he also expresses this in a way that really doesn't make anything better, and just makes me feel less confident. Hope that wasn't too lengthy, but I had to add more to that sentence and didn't want to leave too much out.
Is it normal that he's embarrassed of me?
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I was ready to tell you to get away from that horrible horrible family, when I got to "I don't want to get into it too much, but he isn't just an asshole without a cause."
Now I'm stuck and don't know what to say to you, sweetheart. I think that's not a relationship destined to work. You should find someone who can respect you and who you are. Not only that, someone who will back you up before his family. I wish you the best.
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Thanks for that, and I know I should've added more on that issue. I didn't really feel like getting into it I guess, but I'll add some more.
Basically we've been living togethor for a while and we've discovered how differently we view and react to things. We have so many different opinions and he wishes I agreed with him on more things. He gets mad that I don't listen, seeming to think it means I don't trust him.
He's a high stress type who wants stuff done, whereas I'm more laid back, sometimes excessively. I'm currently unemployed and he could use the help, but I just havn't delivered. I've applied at lots of places and left resumes, but I havn't got many call backs. The interviews I have gotten I've flopped on, I think because I was too obviously nervous. Even though I have tried hard, I havn't tried hard enough. I can't just use my shyness as an excuse.
There's also the house cleaning. Although I do clean, I don't do it fast enough. I tend to wait until the last minute, which drives him insane.
All in all I can understand why he's upset. He views me someone who doesn't try hard enough, gives up too easy and just doesn't understand how to get by and interact with the world. And he's not wrong. But he also expresses this in a way that really doesn't make anything better, and just makes me feel less confident. Hope that wasn't too lengthy, but I had to add more to that sentence and didn't want to leave too much out.