Is it normal that he doesn't stay hard

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Me and my boyfriend have just started having sex about month ago and usually I have to give him a blowjob to get him hard,and once he's really hard then we Have intercourse and then about after 5-9 minutes he is done and he's not hard anymore so we cuddle for 10-15 minutes and then I give him a Blowjob to get him hard and then once we try to have intercourse his boner goes down a little bit,is this normal? It's frustrates me because I can never finish,this worries me that I won't ever have an orgasm...

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago | pl

    He should learn how to hold himself until you are done too.

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    • handsignals
      9 years ago | pl

      no no no. this is normal what he needs to do is go down on you.

      This is how it should go:
      You give him a nice sensual massage/blowjob, he returns the favour then you have sex, if either of you finish before the other then you finish it with more oral.

      OMG! I should be a sex therapist.

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    • Ashleyptv19
      9 years ago | pl

      I know idk why he can't stay hard for a while I mean I hope it's not me..idk I'm worried and he is the first guy I have had sex with that's why idk if it's normal or not

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      • dom180
        9 years ago | pl

        If he gets hard and stays hard for you the first time then he definitely finds you sexy enough :)

        As a guy, I often find it difficult to go again after the first time and even if I can get it up a bit it might not be enough to penetrate. It's a normal thing for guys and it isn't a reflection of our partner's attractiveness as much as it's just a penis design flaw :P

        If you're worried about never having an orgasm, you should masturbate and learn how to masturbate properly. Most people have their first orgasm masturbating, and it helps you learn what you like and what you don't which helps you to have more pleasurable sex. There's loads of information online about how to masturbate properly (and I don't just mean porn).

        Lastly, be assertive with your partner when it comes to getting what you want. If you'd like him to spend more time concentrating on pleasuring you, maybe as foreplay, then tell him that and tell him how to do it or else he won't know how you feel.

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        • shuggy-chan
          9 years ago | pl

          that being sad everyone is different

          Im the opposite problem, I never finish from sex yet, just tired out.

          the key is figuring out how to make sure both parties are satisfied, via maybe more foreplay, more reps?, more communication.

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          • dom180
            9 years ago | pl

            I think that's true. I often don't finish from sex, which the girl often doesn't realise is normal because men are generally portrayed as being able to finish very easily during sex which just isn't true for everyone.

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        • Ashleyptv19
          9 years ago | pl

          Well that's a good sign then because a does stay hard the first time we have intercourse. But then it goes soft and I kindof get mad but I guess it's not his fault but idk. I just want to actually finish during sex. That's my goal and usually I just give him a lot of blowjobs and I tell him to eat me
          Out but he doesn't like volunteer for some reason but I am the only girl he has eaten out before. So it's something new for him too. And I will def tell him to focus on pleasuring me too because everytime we have intercourse he has cummed.

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      • (s)aint
        9 years ago | pl

        Do you use condoms? I wont bash them too hard but some men just cant stay hard with them on. My BF can last for as long as need be without getting soft without condom, but with condom he goes soft within a few minute.

        Was he a virgin too btw? Because he might be nervous! As someone else said, start of easy by him maybe giving you oral or fingering until you are aaaalmooost there,then you proceed with having sex and unless you feel stressed/worried that should do it.

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  • kelili
    8 years ago | pl

    Some men can do it only once then it's very difficult for them to get hard again. He should try to make the first time lasts longer.

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