My ex-wife and I used to watch porn every month or so for around ten years until she told me she did not like it any more and we stopped. Before our divorce she told me I made her watch it and she hated it. I felt like I was being accused of spousal rape and felt bad that she could think such a thing. I was usually the one suggesting movie nights but she would agree to watch and play. She was always very turned on watching the porn which only added to my confusion. I wouldn't ever force anything on anyone. She could have said no when I suggested a porn night but never did and her very natural response to porn was a high level of arousal and explosive orgasms. So how does the concentual use of porn as a way to enhance our sex become husband abuse years later? She really believed it even though she never brought it up at the time we were watching it. She said she thought it was her duty to please me even though she felt used. Where did she get the idea that I could ever buy into the archaic notion that she had the obligation to do my sexual bidding no matter that it was humiliating to her? If porn felt so humiliating why didn't she just say so and if she felt she was used by me it seems inappropriate for her to not bring it up so we could have a discussion on boundaries. It became an issue during our divorce which felt that much more hurtful and even humiliating for me. Fucked up communication can be deadly to a marriage.
is it normal that girls love to watch porn.
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My ex-wife and I used to watch porn every month or so for around ten years until she told me she did not like it any more and we stopped. Before our divorce she told me I made her watch it and she hated it. I felt like I was being accused of spousal rape and felt bad that she could think such a thing. I was usually the one suggesting movie nights but she would agree to watch and play. She was always very turned on watching the porn which only added to my confusion. I wouldn't ever force anything on anyone. She could have said no when I suggested a porn night but never did and her very natural response to porn was a high level of arousal and explosive orgasms. So how does the concentual use of porn as a way to enhance our sex become husband abuse years later? She really believed it even though she never brought it up at the time we were watching it. She said she thought it was her duty to please me even though she felt used. Where did she get the idea that I could ever buy into the archaic notion that she had the obligation to do my sexual bidding no matter that it was humiliating to her? If porn felt so humiliating why didn't she just say so and if she felt she was used by me it seems inappropriate for her to not bring it up so we could have a discussion on boundaries. It became an issue during our divorce which felt that much more hurtful and even humiliating for me. Fucked up communication can be deadly to a marriage.