Is it normal that everyone thinks we should be a couple?

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I'm a girl, and my best friend is a guy. I've known him for almost two years now, and we're the same in every way possible. We read the same books, listen to the same music, and just enjoy the same things in general.

At school, he and I have no classes together, and we don't really acknowledge eachother at all. But I always get a hug from him at the end of the day, before we go home. His house is like a second home to me, I know it better than my own, and his parents and sister are practically family.

I've fallen for him, and I've fallen hard. I know it, and I've told him that I 'kinda-sorta-maybe' like him, but he doesn't feel the same. Now, most of our friends are saying that we should be a couple. I love that people think this, but I hate that it's making him uncomfortable. My mom refuses to believe that we're only friends, and keeps calling him my boyfriend. She makes it awkward all the time, and I hate it. I'm afraid that he's going to pull away from me because of it, but I can't tell him that either.

What do I do? Is it normal for everyone to think that you and your best friend should become a couple? I love him but we'll only every be friends, and I've come to terms with that, why can't everyone else?

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  • over_rated
    14 years ago

    Maybe, your mom should have swallowed :) we're not going to have sex, you retard.

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  • buckshot69
    14 years ago

    Maybe the two of you should have sex. If it's good then date, if it's not, don't.

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  • over_rated
    14 years ago

    Jag: Thanks for the insight. I just feel like we're growing apart all the time. It's depressing...really really depressing. I hope things work out for you and your best friend <3

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  • Jagjaguar
    14 years ago

    I had the same problem kind of. I am/was best friends with this girl and eventually everyone started making similar comments about us (including her mom calling me her boyfriend). This would have all been fine if I didnt just start falling for her recently. I took these comments as a sign I should tell her how I felt, like an idiot. It was great for a while but didnt work out. Now she still wants to be friends and so do I but every time I see her i get super depressed cause I still like her. You already made the right decision about that, this is just a cautionary tale in case things change.

    Its normal for your friends to want you to be with someone you like, and they can prob see how you feel. But if theres no chance of it happening just tell them to stop cause its not going to help anyone.

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  • over_rated
    14 years ago

    mtnw: thanks, I think. I don't really want a boyfriend at this point and time, so thanks for the advise anyway. And it hasn't ended our relationship. If anything it's made it stronger, because I know I can tell him something like that, and he won't run away and we won't be awkward or weird or anything.

    secrettellings: I don't want to wait either, but there's no one else I like right now so I'm kinda just waiting for something/someone to come along and change how I feel. Thanks :)

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  • secrettellings
    14 years ago

    I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM!

    I have a best guy friend who i like and would SO go out with but he doesn't feel the same ways and idk how but i got over it. I realized i don't want to wait.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    maybe they see him as a good match for you, but only you know the real details of your relationship with him.

    when one friend falls in love with the other friend, it sort of ends the friendship anyway because one feel the pain of love and the other doesn't want more than friendship.

    since you told him about how your feelings have changed, and he doesn't want anything more than a friendship, i think maybe it's time for you to find a real boyfriend.

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