I am a girl, and I agree with the above. But from a woman perspective:
I was a virgin until I was 23. I refused to be with a man that didn't respect me and see me for me. (those are really good qualities in a partner, and from the little you've written you seem like that kind of guy!) But I also never had any interest in men who were "nice" unless they also took the lead.
Love is a complicated thing, but one of the most important things you need as a man, to make women interested in you, is confidence. (I don't know if its societal rules, or simply biology.) But men without confidence who do not take the lead are unappealing. (So are really pushy men, sometimes those guys can even be scary, so there is obviously a balance!)
A guy can be so sexy you want to die when he looks at you, but unless he shows you that he's interested, and it's you he wants (preferably for more than just your ladybits), then most women will just not be interested. Or that is to say, they may be interested, but they will never do anything about it!
It sucks to be a guy, I don't know if I would have ever had the confidence to be the one that pushes, but that's what you have to do. Push, but be a good guy. I think it'll help! After all, why would she invest her time, energy and emotions in you unless you show her that you want <i>her</i>?
I tried to be pushy a few times in the past, but I only had terrible experiences. I don't understand why women make such simple matters so complicated.
Being a guy is certainly hard. If you aren't pushy enough, women feel rejected... if you are too pushy, they get offended and you will most certainly lose all your chances with them. The worst thing is that, women don't even want to talk with guys about their limits, they get offended by that too!
I understand that confidence is what I need... It is just that... I feel like it is all a stupid game, a game that I don't want to be part of. I just wish you could just fall in love with someone naturally, without using tricks or acting to get the other person interested. Confidence is great or whatever when you are picking up girls... but honestly... confidence is not important at all once you are already in a relationship.
I don't know... I guess I just don't want to act like an animal in heat.
Then don't!! You can go out and meet many girls,talk with them all and ser which one you click the most with
..and then you don't need to play any games. In fact be yourself okay?! Am sure your great yourself and that you have a charming personality,so let that speak out!!
Yes they do!!! Women say they want a guy to have a "balance" between being an asshole and a wimp, but the balance never works because you you still have a bit of both and you and your either one or the other. Females dont (and never will) know what they want. Women make everything complicated even though it doesn't have to be. Just say you want his money and stop being so difficult. Lol.
You cant compare your situation with a guy's. Because men and women are virgins for different reasons. And yea it is biology, to answer your "question". Anyway, there just what it is. A female whos a virgin, is going to be praised and a male whos a virgin is gonna be shamed. Women need to stop acting like they got it so bad.
IIN that everyone says I am handsome, but I am still virgin at 24?
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I am a girl, and I agree with the above. But from a woman perspective:
I was a virgin until I was 23. I refused to be with a man that didn't respect me and see me for me. (those are really good qualities in a partner, and from the little you've written you seem like that kind of guy!) But I also never had any interest in men who were "nice" unless they also took the lead.
Love is a complicated thing, but one of the most important things you need as a man, to make women interested in you, is confidence. (I don't know if its societal rules, or simply biology.) But men without confidence who do not take the lead are unappealing. (So are really pushy men, sometimes those guys can even be scary, so there is obviously a balance!)
A guy can be so sexy you want to die when he looks at you, but unless he shows you that he's interested, and it's you he wants (preferably for more than just your ladybits), then most women will just not be interested. Or that is to say, they may be interested, but they will never do anything about it!
It sucks to be a guy, I don't know if I would have ever had the confidence to be the one that pushes, but that's what you have to do. Push, but be a good guy. I think it'll help! After all, why would she invest her time, energy and emotions in you unless you show her that you want <i>her</i>?
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I tried to be pushy a few times in the past, but I only had terrible experiences. I don't understand why women make such simple matters so complicated.
Being a guy is certainly hard. If you aren't pushy enough, women feel rejected... if you are too pushy, they get offended and you will most certainly lose all your chances with them. The worst thing is that, women don't even want to talk with guys about their limits, they get offended by that too!
I understand that confidence is what I need... It is just that... I feel like it is all a stupid game, a game that I don't want to be part of. I just wish you could just fall in love with someone naturally, without using tricks or acting to get the other person interested. Confidence is great or whatever when you are picking up girls... but honestly... confidence is not important at all once you are already in a relationship.
I don't know... I guess I just don't want to act like an animal in heat.
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Then don't!! You can go out and meet many girls,talk with them all and ser which one you click the most with
..and then you don't need to play any games. In fact be yourself okay?! Am sure your great yourself and that you have a charming personality,so let that speak out!!
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Yes they do!!! Women say they want a guy to have a "balance" between being an asshole and a wimp, but the balance never works because you you still have a bit of both and you and your either one or the other. Females dont (and never will) know what they want. Women make everything complicated even though it doesn't have to be. Just say you want his money and stop being so difficult. Lol.
You cant compare your situation with a guy's. Because men and women are virgins for different reasons. And yea it is biology, to answer your "question". Anyway, there just what it is. A female whos a virgin, is going to be praised and a male whos a virgin is gonna be shamed. Women need to stop acting like they got it so bad.